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Old 11-28-2008, 12:30 PM   #1
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How do you feel when someone obviously doesnt like what you have cooked ?

As I mentioned in the Hit and Miss thread, I had a Miss with the mashed rutagaba, parsnip and carrot. It wasnt that it was bad, I actually thought it was perfect. But most of the other people either wernt willing to try it, or took a little and left it over ( a few did like it).

Sure I know everyone has different tastes and that everything is not for everyone. But, there is that little bit inside me that gets a little insulted when I see people leaving my food over. I never say anything, and I never would. But I cant help getting that feeling. I feel like saying " Hey, its perfect and it taste great, whats the matter with you ?? Do you have defective taste buds ??? "

Does anyone else get that kind of insulted feeling if something you know you cooked is perfect to your standards, but isnt accepted by others ?? To me this is one of those feelings ( like jealousy) that in your mind you can reason why you shouldnt feel that way, but something just kinda takes over..

(The potato cheese bake completely went, so I wasnt that insulted )

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Old 11-28-2008, 12:43 PM   #2
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As I mentioned in the Hit and Miss thread, I had a Miss with the mashed rutagaba, parsnip and carrot. It wasnt that it was bad, I actually thought it was perfect. But most of the other people either wernt willing to try it, or took a little and left it over ( a few did like it).

Sure I know everyone has different tastes and that everything is not for everyone. But, there is that little bit inside me that gets a little insulted when I see people leaving my food over. I never say anything, and I never would. But I cant help getting that feeling. I feel like saying " Hey, its perfect and it taste great, whats the matter with you ?? Do you have defective taste buds ??? "

Does anyone else get that kind of insulted feeling if something you know you cooked is perfect to your standards, but isnt accepted by others ?? To me this is one of those feelings ( like jealousy) that in your mind you can reason why you shouldnt feel that way, but something just kinda takes over..

(The potato cheese bake completely went, so I wasnt that insulted )

Larry
I tell people when I put out a meal to not feel obligated to eat something I made if they don't like it as everybody has different tastes and it wont be an insult if you don't eat it. How ever if it's something they have never had before I encourage them to at least taste it it rather than just bypassing it.
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Old 11-28-2008, 12:43 PM   #3
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larry, I know how you feel but try not to get insulted. Just try to remember not to make that recipe again for those folks. It doesn't mean that the recipe was bad, it was just not what they particularly liked.

I really do understand--I was very disappointed when I spent 2-1/2 hours making marzipan carrots for a three layer carrot cake and no one ate them when I served the cake. They considered them cute garnish and all my effort (not to mention the expense of the ingredients) got thrown in the trash. So, now when I make that cake, I use perfect walnut halves instead unless I know that folks like marzipan.
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Old 11-28-2008, 12:47 PM   #4
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Larry, the only time I feel insulted when I present a meal is if someone is rude enough to loudly comment on the things they don't like about it. Otherwise, I just chalk it up to different tastes.

I DO however feel ready to leap across the table when my child picks out microscopic "bits" of things she considers inedible from her food. And when I say microscopic I mean grains of broccoli. Or perhaps a tiny shred of onion. Yeesh. But thats just about kids and Moms.
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Old 11-28-2008, 12:48 PM   #5
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I get what you are saying Larry.... My family are not very open minded with food... frankly most of the time most of them wont even try something unfamiliar.... There are a few of us that will eat/try anything.

If someone genuinely does not like something that's fine but when they wont even give it a fair chance because they have convinced themselves beforehand that makes me crazy because I love to try new food so much and so many things I thought I would not like I ended up loving.

I feel like 1/2 of my relatives are "special needs" eaters with all of these individual issues and phobias. They are the worst group of people to cook for. The slightest difference in what they are used to and they wont touch it.

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If I am cooking for people I know like and know food and they have comments or ideas on how to imrove something like you know what this can use etc that I appreciate
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Old 11-28-2008, 12:50 PM   #6
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larry, I know how you feel but try not to get insulted. Just try to remember not to make that recipe again for those folks. It doesn't mean that the recipe was bad, it was just not what they particularly liked.

I really do understand--I was very disappointed when I spent 2-1/2 hours making marzipan carrots for a three layer carrot cake and no one ate them when I served the cake. They considered them cute garnish and all my effort (not to mention the expense of the ingredients) got thrown in the trash. So, now when I make that cake, I use perfect walnut halves instead unless I know that folks like marzipan.
Thats to bad I love marzipan.
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It is happened to me.... I don't take it personally, but more as a "Wont be fixing that again." or "What did I do wrong?". I take it with a grain of salt. Different strokes for different folks... what I may find interesting and fabulous may not be the same for the crowd I'm cooking it for. Don't sweat it Larry.... just be you!!!
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Old 11-28-2008, 01:37 PM   #8
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Firstly, I wish I could have had your root veggie mash - sounds really good to me!
I usually cook the same things for Thanksgivintg, so I know what most may or may not like. Even though my mil and older boy don't care for carrots, I still make carrots in a butter-dill cream, since my sister and I go crazy for it. I know that mil and son will instead go for the orange-ginger sweet potatoes, served in orange cups instead. One orange veggie in exchange for another, I suppose.
On regular days, I do get the occasional whine, but I tell them that when they (both boys and husband) want to cook, they can cook, provided they serve a balanced meal, and do all of the clean up afterward. Somehow, they manage to get through the meal just fine
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Old 11-28-2008, 01:39 PM   #9
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I must say it has not happened to me but I have eaten at others homes and kept quiet about food I didn't like . One year, my sister didn't cook the potatoes completely , it was baked potato and still a little hard. The turkey was a little underdone.
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Old 11-28-2008, 01:43 PM   #10
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No, I do not get insulted by that. What I do sometimes (and only slightly) get insulted by is when I make something and people do not even try it. If someone puts on a dinner for me then I will take a little bit of everything that is served usually. Of course with a spread like most do on Thanksgiving that is sometimes impossible, but for a normal meal I would at least try a bite of everything.
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