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Old 11-30-2004, 08:41 AM   #1
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What is your entertaining style?

Confession time...I never entertain on a level of more than 3 or 4 folks at a time and I need to have an open house or New Years Eve party - new house, lots of invitation paybacks...so thinking 20-30 folks in and out. I have menu ideas worked out, but that's the easy part...not being a very social person in large group situations, I'm wondering - how do you circulate, introduce, keep things going? I see me as being a casual hostess - NO GAMES!!!! although I'd probably have a poker table in hubby's office, maybe a pool table by then upstairs in the game room [or having all the teen stuff up there - big screen TV, play station, music]

Most people we would invite know each other from hubby's work - there's the obligatory invite to the commander (who will either make an excuse, or show and leave in 5-10 minutes!), a few folks from my barn group and 2-3 couples that we know outside his office [I adore the folks he works with, so that's who we always hang out with]
How does an old dog learn these new tricks? Some people make it look so easy, others make you feel like it's such an effort to be host/hostess - I want to make it look easy - so you experienced party givers - feel free to step in and give me direction - please!


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Old 11-30-2004, 10:40 AM   #2
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I'm not sure I am the one to answer you on this one. Everyone risks the concern of how people are going to mingle and if people will introduce themselves to each other. I don't think that's really the hostess' worry. If they're adults, they know that parties are sometimes awkward and standing around a table full of food, and not knowing anyone is odd. So, place tables around the places where you want people to accumulate. I have a large home. I would set up the formal dining table with bite sized foods and little plates, napkins and plastic ware. On the surrounding tables, I'd put cups and drinks, like open bottles of wine, an attractive bucket with ice and sodas and beer. In the living room, where there are more tables and places to sit, I'd put chips and dips and nuts and Chex Mix in bowls all around so people could gab and eat a bit. Nice music, a tv on in an 'oddball room' so if there's a game on or whatever, they can feel free to sit there. Low-ish lights make everyone look younger but not so low that they can't see. Not too much that needs heating or cooking right before. Stick to maybe a turkey or eye of round roast or ham, that can be cooked and sliced then plattered, in advance. Place on beds of lettuce and integrate with cheeses. Lot's of fresh veggies with dip and cut up bread slices and crackers with dips. A huge platter of varied cookies toward the end of the night. Ask people to BYOB. I've never minded doing that and that way, I have what I want to drink. I have been to so many party's where there are bottles of the premixed margarita's, (I don't care for that stuff), beer, (I'm allergic) and many bottles of wine, one red, one white, to choose from. What if the party goer loves a Cape Cod? If they're asked to BYOB, they can bring a bottle of Vokda and Cranberry juice and Bubble Up and they're set for the night. Ask everyone to bring a wrapped Christmas ornament. They enter the house, and drop the gift in a basket. When they leave, they get to take a wrapped ornament home as a gift. If kids are coming, yes to the game room with tv on and things to do to entertain them for the evening. Have kids foods up/in there with things for them to drink too. If you're prepared for them, they won't be too bored by the adults in the house.

Good luck. Hope it turns out wonderful for you.

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Old 11-30-2004, 11:21 AM   #3
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Since you aren't worried about the food part of things, what is it that worries you? Just the circulating thing? I have always found that if you have all the food available and make sure everyone has their drinks filled as needed then the party flows pretty freely.

Circulating is easy. You just wander around and say hello to whoever shows up. When you feel you need to move on, I usually just say, "Oh excuse me a second I need to say hello to _____" and away I go. No one really minds that sort of thing. Near the end of the evening I usually take up residence on our hearth near the fire and the party sort of moves into a lower key mode. People at a party tend to watch the hostess for clues about their behaviour. If you are mellow, they will be too.

And really...what is the worst thing that could happen? Someone spill a drink? Set someone's hair on fire? OK...that would be bad, but the drink spilling is nothing.

Have a glass of wine and ENJOY! Thats what entertaining is all about. Having fun with folks, and meeting new friends.
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Old 11-30-2004, 02:24 PM   #4
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This my style......beer,bbq and spam musubi on the beach.
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Old 11-30-2004, 02:28 PM   #5
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Originally Posted by wasabi
This my style......beer,bbq and spam musubi on the beach.

What is spam musubi? We do like spam..a lot of people don't.
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alix, you forgot about the conga line part!!!!!!!!!!!
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Old 11-30-2004, 02:35 PM   #7
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Dove....here is a link to a spam musubi.http://jimfl.tensegrity.net/eb/archives/001401.shtmlWe have bbq for those that don't like spam, but 90% of Hawaiians are spammers,(not the computer @#@#$##)
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