You just get your cabbage well-wilted with some onion, S&P, and garlic. You may want to add potatoes, carrots, and/or celery to the mix. Bacon grease tastes awfully good for this, but I usually use olive oil.
Then make a basic white sauce (bechamel) and add the cabbage mix. Make sure it's nice and thick, because the moisture in the vegies will thin it down. Mix well, re-season, spoon into bowls and garnish with grated cheese of your choice and bacon bits.
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