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I agree with Andy! With so many sauce recipes, look for things they have in common, weed out what you don't like, add things that you do. Another idea, is to start with a commercial bbq sauce that you like, and start tweaking it or trying to duplicate. Personally, I have never been able to make a tomato based sauce that really excites me. Nor have a ever tasted one. Other than a vinegar based sauce/mop for chicken. I eat my bbq meats sans sauce. I usually serve two or three on the side for those who want them. So, Relax!
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