"Discover Cooking, Discuss Life."

Go Back   Discuss Cooking - Cooking Forums > General Cooking Information > General Cooking
Click Here to Login
Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 02-12-2008, 03:04 PM   #1
Certified Pretend Chef
Andy M.'s Avatar
Join Date: Sep 2004
Location: Massachusetts
Posts: 44,465
Helping the Bus Boy/Server in a Restaurant

What's your opinion on this?

You (as part of a dinner party of two or more) are having dinner at a restaurant and you are between courses. Do you leave all the empty dishes where they are or do you collect and/or stack them to make the bus boy's or server's cleanup easier?

We ate out numerous times while on vacation the past two weeks and I observed this behavior and it has become a matter of curiosity.

What do you do?

"If you want to make an apple pie from scratch, you must first create the universe." -Carl Sagan
Andy M. is online now   Reply With Quote
Old 02-12-2008, 03:10 PM   #2
Chef Extraordinaire
suziquzie's Avatar
Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: MN
Posts: 11,488
Send a message via AIM to suziquzie
I move them to the end of the table just because I dont like people reaching in next to me, between the person I am sitting next to and myself. I guess I have personal space issues. That and strange armpits in my face.....
I also tend to move them when the kids are with us because I clean up most of thier mess before the poor wait person / bus boy has to do it.

Not that there's anything wrong with that.....
suziquzie is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 02-12-2008, 03:12 PM   #3
Executive Chef
corazon's Avatar
Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: Native New Mexican, now live in Bellingham, WA
Posts: 3,859
Being that we have 2 young boys, they produce a huge amount of mess. I usually try and collect it all on to one plate. Usually lots of used napkins and chunks of food.

If I like our service or notice that they are really busy, I'll stack up the plates to help them out.

After waiting tables for a few years, I got a little grossed out by touching people's used napkins and stuff like that. So at the least, I put those on my plate for an easy trash dump.
"There are only two lasting bequests we can hope to give our children. One of these is roots, the other, wings." http://aidancallum.blogspot.com/
corazon is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 02-12-2008, 03:22 PM   #4
Master Chef
Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: Culpeper, VA
Posts: 5,803
No kids in our party, but we usually just add the flotsam & jetsam (paper goods, etc.) to the plates & leave them where they sit, only because we've found wait staff & bussers seem to usually have their own methods as to how they like to stack & carry things.
BreezyCooking is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 02-12-2008, 03:25 PM   #5
Chef Extraordinaire
middie's Avatar
Join Date: Aug 2004
Location: Cleveland,Ohio USA
Posts: 16,263
Send a message via Yahoo to middie
I will stack the plates and put the silverware and napkins ontop.
middie is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 02-12-2008, 03:27 PM   #6
Executive Chef
miniman's Avatar
Join Date: Aug 2006
Location: Basingstoke, England
Posts: 4,687
We usually stack the same size dishes - sometimes there are any number of different size plates. I will also pass things to the server to help them.
miniman is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 02-12-2008, 03:29 PM   #7
Master Chef
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: Cicero, IL
Posts: 5,093
We stack them and clean up any mess on the table, which can be a lot with three kids ;)
Maverick2272 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 02-12-2008, 03:53 PM   #8
Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: Ohio
Posts: 90
I usually resist the urge to stack plates, as when I was a waitress I much prefered to do this myself. It's much easier to stack the dishes in my hands one at a time than to try to pick up a heavy stack of dishes that may not be stacked evenly. I will hand whomever the dishes though if it looks like that would help them.
krichardson is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 02-12-2008, 03:55 PM   #9
Executive Chef
redkitty's Avatar
Join Date: Jan 2007
Location: San Francisco
Posts: 3,200
I always put my dirty napkin on top of my plate but we don't have kids so it's usually just the two of us, only two plates! If we are with a group I do stack the plates on top of each other to make it easier to serve our next course. I also never gave it much thought until now, it's just something I do!
Accentuate the positives, medicate the negatives ~ Amy Sedaris
redkitty is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 02-12-2008, 03:55 PM   #10
Senior Cook
plumies's Avatar
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: Sunny San Diego
Posts: 444
It depends what restaurant I'm at. But I typically will stack like dishes together. At the least, I move them closer together so the staff doesn't have to reach so far by leaning their bodies across me. I also have a tendency to clean my area after I've eaten.

I once had a server asked me if I was in the food industry since I stacked up all our plates. I said no, just upbringing. She chuckled and said my mother raised me properly.

CAB Cooks
plumies is offline   Reply With Quote

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off

» Discuss Cooking on Facebook

Copyright 2002- Social Knowledge, LLC All Rights Reserved.

All times are GMT -5. The time now is 10:05 PM.

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.8 Beta 4
Copyright ©2000 - 2018, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.