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Old 03-09-2012, 06:24 AM   #11
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Yes, we do provide guidance. For example, Sunday is brunch at a friend's house and I'm in charge of garlic bread. For my husband's 65th birthday a couple of days ago I requested finger food with a fifties/sixties theme if possible. When we get together, whoever is hosting tells the call-backs, I'm making (whatever) and need and appetizer, a salad, a side, and a desert to go with it. By the way, the friend who says it's not right, always brings great food and doesn't seem to mind it. Go figure. She just thinks it is one of those confusing things Americans do!

I have to say, I really, really really miss the parties we had in Hawaii. The scope of Asian cuisines that would show up were just amazing. Most of the Asian women I knew didn't drink, and my Guamanian friend (when it was his house) would sneak me a cocktail. I didn't then know that many Asian women can't drink ... not a cultural thing, a physical one. They get sick and very, very quickly. But I loved those dinners and when I think of things I miss from when we lived in Hawaii, that's near the top of my list (OK, the weather has to be top, then the ocean). We had friends from every Asian country you could name, and potlucks were spectacular.
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Old 03-09-2012, 06:32 AM   #12
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I am not offended at all but, I don't enjoy eating at Potluck parties.

I do like to have some direction in what to bring. If your name ends in A-D bring a salad type of thing or think Irish food etc.......

If you do not like the group landing in your home look for a new gathering spot. We used to congregate at our local saloon. Everyone had a good time and the bar had an extra good day, cha-ching! We celebrated many minor holidays, sporting events, blizzard parties, etc...
For awhile I realized I was hosting more often that most and it bothered me a bit. Then I thought, well, I like it, really. Several of our friends are single women (divorce, widows, or just plain single) for whom entertaining is a real chore. My husband is still able to assist me if it's inside.

We do have a "third place" where we all meet on Fridays. And yes, the restaurant owners appreciate the $$ that is brought in, and even on occasion sponsor a dinner for us, give us a table at a local concert, etc.
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Old 03-09-2012, 07:36 AM   #13
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I like potlucks.....
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Old 03-09-2012, 09:39 AM   #14
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The problem with having parties at restaurants is that it can be a budget breaker for some of our friends. I have an older friend on a fixed income. I have a few friends on fixed income for disabilities. The economy has sucked for a while, friends are sometimes out of work. So, when we do restaurant get togethers we usually limit it to cheaper restaurants. At least we know a few good, non-chain less expensive restaurants.

One of my pet peeves is someone having a party and showing off by choosing an expensive, but crappy restaurant and I have to pay "that much for crappy food!"

A pot luck is a great way to include folks with tighter budgets.
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Old 03-09-2012, 09:43 AM   #15
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A group of us used to do potlucks every 2-3 months. They were great. We'd pick a theme and then go from there. We'd list the types of foods (salad, main dish, dessert, other sides) and people would "sign up" for what they'd like to bring. We did Chinese fondue, Italian, Mexican, comfort food, etc., themes.
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Old 03-09-2012, 09:44 AM   #16
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No offense.

My SIL (who doesn't cook) tells SO what to bring (usually a dessert), I usually make an appy or side. She counts on it as a part of the meal when she doesn't order take out.

My sister really doesn't want people to bring anything because she wants all the dishes to be hers. When we offer, she just says to bring a dessert and we end up with a dozen or so desserts. She then gets to complain about, 'what is she going to do with all these desserts as she can't eat them'.

When we have a small dinner party, we tell guests thanks but we already have the menu set. I let my sister bring something to avoid an argument and hurt feelings.

When we have an open house, people bring stuff and we make stuff.

As a side note, we used to host an annual open house with our neighbors in December. One year two other couples offered to host next year. When the time came, both couples backed out. We don't have open houses anymore.
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As a side note, we used to host an annual open house with our neighbors in December. One year two other couples offered to host next year. When the time came, both couples backed out. We don't have open houses anymore.
It's a shame when that sort of thing happens. When people do that, it takes the shine off and I understand not feeling like doing it any more.
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Old 03-09-2012, 11:38 AM   #19
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Bolas. I'm ashamed.

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Old 03-09-2012, 12:15 PM   #20
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How do I feel about potluck parties?

It depends on who the guests/participants are.

If I know the guests well I enjoy them very much.

If I don't know all the guests, I'd just as soon pass. Frankly, the thought of eating food from questionable kitchens and cooks turns my stomach.

We are expected to participate in several potlucks a year, sponsored by our retirement community of 120 homes, and I just won't go.
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