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Old 03-08-2012, 10:28 PM   #1
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Opinions on Potluck Parties.

I don't know how to do this anymore.

I'm sure I've asked before, but I am curious.

How many people are actually offended by getting a "potluck" invitation.

My friends love to cook, but actually love to come to my house for some reason. So I scrub up and host, make the main dish, put out requests, and they do the rest.

One friend actually thought it was tacky for me to ask people to bring things to a party (she didn't think it was too tacky, she always brings food).

Is anyone out there actually offended by an invitation that says "bring something .... " I often do theme dinners... as in, I'm making halupke, bring something eastern European.

I'm just curious as to how many people entertain this way.


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Old 03-08-2012, 10:32 PM   #2
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I'm not offended in the least to be asked to bring something to a get together.

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Old 03-08-2012, 10:37 PM   #3
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Love potluck...when I was a kid, my parents, or sometimes a neighbor, used to have rent parties. People would bring food and drink, roll up the rugs and break out the accordion. Nowadays, I live alone, so it's nice to get to cook for friends and sample some of their kitchen magic.
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Old 03-08-2012, 10:39 PM   #4
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Heavens, no, I'm not offended. Most of my friends do potlucks.

I am offended when someone insists on bringing food when it isn't potluck. I was having an elegant Solstice supper. A friend asked if she could bring a friend of hers who was visiting from farm country in Manitoba. She wanted to bring cabbage rolls. I said, "Thank you very much, but please don't." Well, this got into a big kerfuffle with hurt feelings. Apparently it's traditional for her friend to bring food for Xmas celebrations. I put my foot down and explained that this wasn't a Xmas celebration, that I detest the smell of cabbage rolls, and no she couldn't bring them. I had already promised I wouldn't scare the poor little Christian farm girl with any scary pagan stuff.
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Old 03-08-2012, 10:43 PM   #5
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I wouldn't be offended at all. Sounds like fun!
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Old 03-08-2012, 10:47 PM   #6
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I do have to laugh at this one. Once upon a time, many years ago, I did TWO parties a year. One, in the summer, was potluck, the other, in early december, was just me. Well, when I moved here, all my friends were bringing food. So I took to making huge batches of chili -- Cincinnati for the holidays, green New Mexico for summer. Then I just asked people to join in. It's worked well, but one friend thinks it is tacky. So I just was curious. Believe me, no one has turned down an invitation, and they all love the opportunity to try out a new recipe. I was just curious as to what you all thought about it.
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Old 03-08-2012, 10:53 PM   #7
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Two places where I formerly worked used to have pot lucks every once in a while. Whomever organized it would ask each person what they would like to bring so that we didn't get too many main courses or desserts and not enough sides. I've done pasta carbonara, Israeli couscous, jambalaya stuffed bell peppers, and my world famous spaghetti and meatball cake, among other things.
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Old 03-08-2012, 11:30 PM   #8
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When I get invited to a dinner party the first thing I ask is what I can bring. Seems reasonable to me.

I have hosted gatherings and told people to bring nothing, I have hosted and told them what they need to bring, or at least the category to bring.

Offended? Bah... You invite me into your home, do all the cleaning and provide me food, the least I can do is offer to help some how. Even if you don't want any.

A friend of mine several years ago wanted to do a nice party for her new husband for his birthday. She decided steak was a great way to celebrate (and I can't argue that). There was 30 people there and I cooked the steaks and a couple sides since she asked if I would do it. In the end she realized feeding steak to 30 people would not be cheap so it was a bring yer steak, we have everything else. Big hit, everyone got the cut they wanted, and I took extra care to be sure they were grilled appropriately.

Offended? Bah.
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Old 03-08-2012, 11:39 PM   #9
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i'm not offended at all. in fact, i relish being able to bring a dish to a party. it both pleases me to be have a part in the dinner, and it challenges me to make something the best i can to please my friends and those who i may befriend.
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Old 03-09-2012, 04:54 AM   #10
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I am not offended at all but, I don't enjoy eating at Potluck parties.

I do like to have some direction in what to bring. If your name ends in A-D bring a salad type of thing or think Irish food etc.......

If you do not like the group landing in your home look for a new gathering spot. We used to congregate at our local saloon. Everyone had a good time and the bar had an extra good day, cha-ching! We celebrated many minor holidays, sporting events, blizzard parties, etc...

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