ss, i respectfully have to disagree. your advice might be ok for an older generation, but is also a bit confusing.
you recommend light meals including seafood, and that's exactly what i posted. not a heavy sauce.
first you say don't make spaghetti like mama, but then you say it's ok. i don't get it... i think you might have confused some of the posts.
if zath were dating an older woman then i'd agree about the blouse and sauce. but they're 18. i don't think young women even wear something called a blouse anymore, let alone worry about getting food on themselves.
actually, it's a good test. if a young woman does "slurp" sauce onto herself, (besides being a pig) it's a good indication of how she'll react in other ways.
if she freaks out and demands you run out for club soda, then she's too high strung.
if she insists you pay for the dry cleaning, then she's too high maintenance.
if she starts a food fight so you're both in the same boat, well, you might be onto something there, or she might be crazy. either one, lol.
all of this doesn't matter, though, if she's hot.
ok zath, so get in there, and just be yourself. funny works well, can you be funny?
if you really want to try tricks and smoke and mirrors to get to your goal, find out about a subject she likes and do a little research on it. then include some of this new knowledge in to the conversation, again casually. but then eventually let her know that you researched it to impress her.
for some reason that kind of subterfuge is looked at as you being a caring guy, wanting to please her.