Claire
Master Chef
If you're getting the bum's rush at a good quality place, never go back. Period. If you've made reservations, show up on time, etc, then they are wrong to make another reservation for that table. I'm assuming we aren't talking about a chain restaurant where turnover is the key. I would also, when I left, make sure I let the owner/maitre d' knew that I wasn't coming back and was telling my friends about it. AND I'd consider writing a letter to the editor of the paper (not kidding here; I live in a very small Midwestern town and I do this sometimes without naming names).
A less fine dining establishment? There are ways of letting the waitress know that her tip is being established based on her attitude. Of course hubby, friends and I are all drinkers, and we tip the guy/gal generously on the first round of drinks. THEN they have the message. People don't want us to leave!
It is funny this came up because we had this happen last night. We went to a local brew-pub, and had made reservations for a large table. It promised to be a very busy night, because of the entertainment, that's why we made reservations. The waitress was just this side of rude, obviously trying, as I said, to give us the bum's rush. Huh? Fine, OK. since we couldn't get separate checks ("it's going to be really busy tonight" with the implication that she wanted us in and out in a hurry), and hubby was furious. I took to waitressing from the bar myself, because I'd tipped the barkeep a buck on my first drink. So every time I got up and walked to the bar, one of the bartenders was waiting for me (the place was packed), filled my order first, and oops! There went one more dollar our "waitress" lost. If she was tipped by our table, it was minimally. She wasn't even busy, she was anticipating that she might be busy. At one point (we had a table for 12), a few of our party left, and I told our waitress that she could pull off a 4-cover. She was even snotty then! No, she didn't want to be any busier than she was. I got up and pulled it off myself, just so we could sit closer together and sing and talk.
Well, her loss. We didn't tip her at all, I don't think anyone else was that snotty (it was, as we were very snottily informed when we arrived, no separate checks, it was going to be too busy).
But the real bottom line is money talks.
A less fine dining establishment? There are ways of letting the waitress know that her tip is being established based on her attitude. Of course hubby, friends and I are all drinkers, and we tip the guy/gal generously on the first round of drinks. THEN they have the message. People don't want us to leave!
It is funny this came up because we had this happen last night. We went to a local brew-pub, and had made reservations for a large table. It promised to be a very busy night, because of the entertainment, that's why we made reservations. The waitress was just this side of rude, obviously trying, as I said, to give us the bum's rush. Huh? Fine, OK. since we couldn't get separate checks ("it's going to be really busy tonight" with the implication that she wanted us in and out in a hurry), and hubby was furious. I took to waitressing from the bar myself, because I'd tipped the barkeep a buck on my first drink. So every time I got up and walked to the bar, one of the bartenders was waiting for me (the place was packed), filled my order first, and oops! There went one more dollar our "waitress" lost. If she was tipped by our table, it was minimally. She wasn't even busy, she was anticipating that she might be busy. At one point (we had a table for 12), a few of our party left, and I told our waitress that she could pull off a 4-cover. She was even snotty then! No, she didn't want to be any busier than she was. I got up and pulled it off myself, just so we could sit closer together and sing and talk.
Well, her loss. We didn't tip her at all, I don't think anyone else was that snotty (it was, as we were very snottily informed when we arrived, no separate checks, it was going to be too busy).
But the real bottom line is money talks.