Having been on both sides of the table, I agree with most. I don't mind an over-friendly wait staff most of the time, but then there are times when you're doing romance and don't want to feel like a member of the family is waiting on you. The music thing really hit home, though. I live in a small, tourist town with a lot of restaurants, and a few I like really pump up the volume. I'll look around, and have often gone to the owner. If 90% of your customers are well over 50, then your (younger) wait staff shouldn't be allowed to put ear-splitting rap or something similar on. More than once I've left a place because it was impossible to converse. Usually, though I have a trick for this. My husband goes to the bar and gets me lots of small money. I then pump the juke box full of oldies! The fact is, I can cook as well or maybe better than most of the restaurants in town and I'm there for other reasons: Social, romance, ambiance, service, and although it is included in all those things, mostly not having to clean up.