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Old 06-15-2014, 09:37 AM   #1
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A Question For You Grandfathers

Happy Father's Day to all our fathers in this forum.

The question is this;

If society had been different when you were raising your children, would you have liked to be a "stay at home Dad" and raised the children alone while the wife went off to work?

More and more Dads today are finding the joy in their children that women have always known.

Also for you fathers who haven't become grandfathers yet. Please feel free to answer.
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Old 06-15-2014, 10:24 AM   #2
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The person I am now would have loved to do that. The person I was then would not have done as good a job.
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Old 06-15-2014, 10:39 AM   #3
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The person I am now would have loved to do that. The person I was then would not have done as good a job.
Like all first time moms, they learn on the job. And I think all men if given the opportunity, would love to bond more with their children when they are just tiny little blobs they can hold in their arms or on their laps. The very same way mothers learned to bond. NBC has been interviewing stay at home Dads and they all say they love it. It was difficult at first, learning how to meet the needs of the kids and take care of the home. But just like new moms, they learned with "on the job training".

I think more women need to allow the men to spend more time with the children when they are tiny and watch them develop and change day to day.
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Old 06-15-2014, 11:26 AM   #4
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I raised my son alone from 9 months old. He is now 33, married with three kids, and living in Baton Rouge, LA. I would not have missed it for the world, but I'd never want to do it again.
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Old 06-15-2014, 11:42 AM   #5
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I think more women need to allow the men to spend more time with the children when they are tiny and watch them develop and change day to day.
All the dads I know under 50 spend lots of time with their children, feed them, get them dressed, change diapers - everything.
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I am 67, and raised to work hard to support a family, but even working all the time, i made time in many areas of life for my kids. I believe all of us have different patience levels, young kids and house work is hard, and i give any women that do it or has done it deserves a lot of credit. Being a stay at home dad, i would think is a lot more work than fun.
I just know that every dad should spend as much time with kids as possible. Kids grow up so fast. I was not a hugging, give the kids credit as I should have, but i can't go back in time and fix that, just do the best i can for the rest of my life.
So now as a grandfather, I give my 6 grandkids all the love i can.
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My youngest son is celebrating his first ever Father's Day at 42 years old and it's really a different world for Dads now days. He had me laughing so hard when he was describing his early mornings getting baby Cheyenne ready for the day, something his own Dad never did.
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My Dad was hands on and he worked. When Mom was under the weather or at work, too...Dad took care of his girls. In the kitchen and outdoors, Dad was the driving force in our lives. Mom was for comfort and I still want her when I am sick. I want Dad when I'm having a problem.

Dad could braid hair, cook, climb, fish, hunt and play.
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I was always involved as well, from the delivery room forward. I never hesitated to change diapers, feed, bathe, dress or whatever for my girls. I read to them, cooked with them, played ball with them, etc.

When my grandson was three months old, I was his caregiver from 6:30AM to 5:30PM five days a week for his first three years. I wouldn't trade that experience for anything.
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I was always involved as well, from the delivery room forward. I never hesitated to change diapers, feed, bathe, dress or whatever for my girls. I read to them, cooked with them, played ball with them, etc.

When my grandson was three months old, I was his caregiver from 6:30AM to 5:30PM five days a week for his first three years. I wouldn't trade that experience for anything.
Lucky you. Those are the formative years. No wonder he thinks you are the greatest granddad going.
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