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Old 11-11-2008, 04:07 PM   #11
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It depends. Are you working through an agency or are you completely independent? Are you paid as an employee under state law? Are you salaried? Either way, you should let your employer know extra time means additional compensation and that they're aware of state labor laws.
I found them through an agency, but signed a contract with the family as an independent nanny. I am a registered trustlined nanny with the state of california. I get health benifits, medical, etc. I have a contract and all it states is the hours I am expected to work, what I am expected to do and when I should have a review. None of those things have been honored.
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Old 11-11-2008, 04:50 PM   #12
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snackpak..........next time.......have it spelled out as to what you will or will not do........make it clear that you expect extra compensation for extra chores......upfront.......if they don't want to hire you under those conditions.......then nobody loses..........I'd also ask your next family..........would you like me wash the dishes? I'll be happy to but it's extra time on my part..........I remember babysitting for 3 and 4 children at 50 cents an hour way back in the 70's........leaving their homes spotless.......did NOT eat them out of house and home or drink their liquor or play their stereo or make out with my boyfriend or have friends over..........I also did not tie up the phone line as you never knew if they had to get through......there were no cell phones in cases of emergencies........I was responsible and actually played with their children.........most parents were appreciative but not all......I would do their supper dishes and if they tipped me I'd do them again.......if no tip......no dishpan hands either the next time but I'd soak them in the sink...........had one Mother make me a deal not to babysit for others and then I sat with her children just about every weekend.......good deal to me:) Hope that things work out for you and yes, it does sound like you've been taken advantage of...........
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Old 11-11-2008, 04:59 PM   #13
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Two things -1. No good deed goes unpunished! I am also the kind of person who does more than is expected, only to find it is then expected plus some. 2. Never expect praise. Just be happy with the job you are doing and know that you can't do anything about anyone else's attitude.
If you really like this job (and it doesn't sound like you do) work things out with the parents as professionally as you can. If you don't want to stay, look for something more suitable for you, and ask them for references just as they would ask you for references. There are a lot a crazies out there, so protect yourself.
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Old 11-11-2008, 05:07 PM   #14
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Two things -1. No good deed goes unpunished! I am also the kind of person who does more than is expected, only to find it is then expected plus some. 2. Never expect praise. Just be happy with the job you are doing and know that you can't do anything about anyone else's attitude.
If you really like this job (and it doesn't sound like you do) work things out with the parents as professionally as you can. If you don't want to stay, look for something more suitable for you, and ask them for references just as they would ask you for references. There are a lot a crazies out there, so protect yourself.
I love my job. I have been a nanny for many years. It's a great job. The reason I do the extra stuff around the house is because I used to have the extra time. But I think when the mom saw me taking more onto myself she pilled the BS on even more. I don't ever really expect praise. I did expect a raise though.

If they never praised a thing I did that'd be fine. It's all of the extra junk she expects me to do instead of taking care of the child that gets me. Being short with me just adds insult to injury.
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Old 11-11-2008, 05:40 PM   #15
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Quicksilver is right (as are some others). You need to have your duties and compensation spelled out in writing and signed by you and them. Like you, I also believe in doing more than I am expected to do, but in this case they have definitely been taking advantage of you. Let them know that you don't mind doing a little extra now and then, but that if it becomes expected of you, you expect to be compensated for it. I would not suggest just quitting, but you may want to keep your eye out for other jobs. As far as websites, I registered with one once. I think it was just called www.nanny.com.

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Old 11-11-2008, 06:36 PM   #16
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Thanks Barbara, good advice as always. And to everyone: Thanks as well for the great advice. I do have everything in writing currently. It just needs an update...which will happen...just as soon as I get that darn review :(
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Old 11-11-2008, 06:44 PM   #17
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Turn it around. You do the review.
Start by saying....It's been so & so (how long) and I think it's time we sat down and talked some things over.
Write down what you want to say.
Make it short and to the point.
Like I said before. It has to be reciprical...and equal. Keep it professional (no whining.)
Just...."this is what I am willing to do, profided......"
I know if you take charge, which you have been hired to do,
you'll feel a whole lot better about the job, but mostly yourself.
Again, good luck.
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Old 11-11-2008, 07:03 PM   #18
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Sounds like a child-centered home with parents who expect you to work the miracles with their child that they are ill equipped to, because of their already too busy schedules. The child is looking for attention and she sure has yours, but the parents should be taking an active role in the raising of their child, which they are obviously not doing.

You are in a lose-lose situation, and if I were you I'd have my resume out to every agency in town. Let the yuppies raise their own bratty child and see how much fun it is. Some positions just never pay enough for all the aggravation they dish out. This is more than a money issue.

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Father of 3 children who had a mother in the home until they were all in school. Yes, it was tough, but we learned the kids were more important than the careers, fancy cars and expensive houses. The YUPs just don't get those old fashion values.

Sorry for the tirade, it's a sore spot with me. If you don't have time to take care of kids, then don't bring them into the world and dump them on someone else to raise.
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Old 11-11-2008, 07:27 PM   #19
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I found them through an agency, but signed a contract with the family as an independent nanny. I am a registered trustlined nanny with the state of california. I get health benifits, medical, etc. I have a contract and all it states is the hours I am expected to work, what I am expected to do and when I should have a review. None of those things have been honored.
The law is on your side. You need to remind her of the contract you've both agreed to.
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Old 11-11-2008, 08:33 PM   #20
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There's a lot to what JoeV says. It sounds like they don't believe in discipline, and that part of what they want you around for is to have someone to point the finger at when the kid turns out to be a monster.

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