Hey guys and gals,
I am at a loss here at work lately. I have been a nanny for years now and I have been with many families. Some were really great and some were awful.
Currently I am working with a family that in my opinion is not appreciative af the work I do around here. My original job description was to provide one on one care for the two year old daughter and to do her laundry. The only other specific requirements were to leave the house how I found it, basically to clean up after myself and the child before I left.
I took onto myself the responsibilities of bathing the child daily, making dinner once a week, making her bed, doing the families laundry if there was time for it etc. I also have been asked to extend my days by 30 minutes which wouldn't be a big deal if I wasn't already working 10+ hour days.
I said yes, because it seems the mother was in a bind and needed the extra help. My problem is this:
1. I am not thanked for the extra work, almost ever. If I empty the dish washer or do an extra load of laundry I never hear a work about it. It's almost as if they were expecting it anyway
2. I am given very little guidance as to how to deal with some of the childs behavioral issues.
3. The family promised me a review after three months (I've been here almost five) and never gave me one. Which means I didnt get a raise either.
After four months I really expected a small raise, especially with the extra work I am doing. Also, the parents are very flip floppy...one week they are beaming with compliments about how well I work with their daughter and the next week I am giving too many time outs and not getting her "chores" done fast enough and the steak I cooked last night is "tough".
I am trying to get used to them one way but they are all over the place. It's confusing and discouraging.
How can I approach them about these issues tactfully? Or should I just start looking for new work? It's hard to come by around here, and if I quit I probably wouldn't get another nanny job. I'd have to go back to office work, or worse...cashier work...
I need advice in a bad way