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Old 05-18-2013, 08:58 PM   #1
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Love nursing, having the time of my life! I also enjoy the science of nutrition.
I had two paths to take for a career. Music or nursing. I chose motherhood over both.
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Old 05-18-2013, 11:58 PM   #2
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Love nursing, having the time of my life! I also enjoy the science of nutrition.
Well some of us seem to have this other science (other than food science) in common lol. My aunt recently told me if she thought she would ever have to butcher a chicken she would never eat it again. Anatomy class prepared me for it though so I do not mind...even though I love animals.

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I had two paths to take for a career. Music or nursing. I chose motherhood over both.
That is very noble. I am only 22 but I think it is a shame for kids to come home alone or not have at least one stay at home parent. I think our society needs stay at home moms. It is how I grew up until middle school at least.
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Old 05-19-2013, 01:55 AM   #3
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unfortunately, because of financial circumstances, and furthermore poor personal choices (selfish choices such as divorce after children are born, abusive relationships not withstanding, of course - and those aren't gender specific), stay at home parents are uncommon in our times.

maybe the issue of the death knell of work unions has something to do with it, in conjunction with the greed of wall street (you aren't excused if you've dabbled in securities or bonds as so many americans have done - without much knowledge of the factors involved -you might have been better off buying lottery tickets), has something to do with it.

if you value stay at home parenting, make sacrifices both of budget and of spirit. don't become a lamb following the herd of what your neighbors say, or community thinks. do what's right for you and your kids, the next generation.

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lol..

where in the hell did our backbone go? our desire, nay, our god given right fir the pursuit of happines go? it only comes with sweat and tears. not by handoutss

you may have your soap box back now. i'm done.

and under the thumb of the sites' t.o.s, i was only stating an opinion, non-political as it were, nor religious in nature.

i will not argue any further.
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Old 05-19-2013, 04:02 AM   #4
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Umm..whatever the situation is....it is better that children grow up in a stable home and with a particular benefit of having a stay at home parent in their early years especially. Everyone knows that..research has shown it. Life happens you make the best as my parents did when I was in middle school. For us it was one of my father's workers made a mistake and my father was liable so both my parents had to suddenly work and we scrapped to get by for a while. I never would have learned the value of a frozen dinner, bag of chips or new clothes otherwise...so ultimately I am greatful for that experience.

In short, I wasnt at all speaking down on any parents but simply saying it is a shame that we have been forced to sacrifice such a precious opportunity. The economy sucks. Sometimes people suck and as before mentioned, I say again, life happens. Yes a good parent takes what life deals and does their absolute best to plsy their hand to the benefit of their children. I am deeply sorry if you feel offended. Any parent that sacrifices self for the betterment of their child is noble, whatever choice they may have to make...
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Old 05-19-2013, 04:06 AM   #5
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unfortunately, because of financial circumstances, and furthermore poor personal choices (selfish choices such as divorce after children are born, abusive relationships not withstanding, of course - and those aren't gender specific), stay at home parents are uncommon in our times...
I too value family and sacrificed all the adult toys, except for my fishing poles, and the toys I had before getting married (my bow, arrows, and rifles). You know what, I didn't miss any of the material things that neighbors had. And in return, I have four of the most wonderful adult children, period. Even all of the families who became part of our family through marriage, love them. And they treat me with both love and respect. I may be living from paycheck to paycheck monetarily, but for the family I have, it is well worth the price.

IMHO, those who don't value family relationships over self, are missing out on the most happiness people can have in this, or any other life.

Maybe that's why we get along so well, BT. We both have the same family values. Besides, we're brothers in every way but the parents.

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i was in no way offended, cui-food-pur (that's too laborious, we need to work on that).

i was just stating my opinion on youlr theme, and i respect your position. i was raised in a home that wasn't wealthy, but was just barely able to have a stay at home parent with due sacrifice. but we got by.

i'm interested in diverse opinions, the lot.

and yeah, chief, blood brothers no doubt.

but geez, i hate cuts on my hands. i'm too sensitive...
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i was in no way offended, cui-food-pur (that's too laborious, we need to work on that).

i was just stating my opinion on youlr theme, and i respect your position. i was raised in a home that wasn't wealthy, but was just barely able to have a stay at home parent with due sacrifice. but we got by.

i'm interested in diverse opinions, the lot.

and yeah, chief, blood brothers no doubt.

but geez, i hate cuts on my hands. i'm too sensitive...
I'm thinking my chi, and your chi got tangled up somewhere in the cosmos before we were placed into a body, and you got some of me, and I got some of you. Obviously, we took only the best parts (why did you take so much memory? I don't have nearly enough, and that's been for all of my mortal life!)

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Well im glad that is settled. I didnt want anyone to think I was judgemental or something.
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chief, if i got the memory, does that mean you got the looks?


cui-f-p, (better), certainly not!

if nothing else, i appreciate a strong opinion. whether you're 22 or 92.

btw, the chief is almost 92...
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Well some of us seem to have this other science (other than food science) in common lol. My aunt recently told me if she thought she would ever have to butcher a chicken she would never eat it again. Anatomy class prepared me for it though so I do not mind...even though I love animals.

That is very noble. I am only 22 but I think it is a shame for kids to come home alone or not have at least one stay at home parent. I think our society needs stay at home moms. It is how I grew up until middle school at least.
I made a choice when I was very young. At that time it was expected that if you didn't go on to college, then you got married. I looked at the cost of college and chose marriage. And as it usually is, the pill was not available at that time, so along came the babies. I grew up with my kids and had a lot of fun along with some heartaches. But when you have five kids, you can expect heartaches. It goes with the territory. There were a few times when my husband was seriously hurt on the job, I pitched in and found a job only for the length of time he was at home. I always worked the night shift. That way I was there to get them off to school with a good breakfast in their tummies. Once he went back to work, I went back to being a fulltime mother. During those days, that is what you did. So I did it. I simply followed the rules of society and did what was expected of me and what was necessary. I made my choices and have no complaints. My kids turned out pretty good. They all have a good job/trade.

Not all mothers or even fathers have a choice. They are the single parents that really struggle today to raise just one kid. You don't hear of large famlies too often today.
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