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Old 10-23-2013, 03:25 AM   #11
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Cat and MammaCat, I am so sorry to hear of Uncle Alex's passing. My condolences to all the family; I'll say a prayer for his soul and for you all tonight.

Cat, understand this: you DID NOT do anything wrong! Your being friendly to that young man might have been taken the wrong way by him and he might have taken it as flirting. By saying "no" some guys dumbly think you really want them to believe "yes". That young man is the one who is in the wrong.

And about the campus police taking care of the problem? It wouldn't hurt to let the town police know there is a problem too. Sometimes campus police are reluctant to issue reports because they don't want the college to be viewed in a bad way. It's better to over-report than under-report.

Good luck in finding the criminal. They deserve to be punished. I am sorry these kinds of things are happening to you.
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Old 10-23-2013, 07:49 AM   #12
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Cat Dear, you have done NOTHING wrong.

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Old 10-23-2013, 08:03 AM   #13
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Cat Dear, you have done NOTHING wrong.

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Ditto. Cat, you are not responsible for this.
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Old 10-23-2013, 08:38 AM   #14
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Is the boy you wouldn't go out with on the football team or some other sports team?

And, as others have written, you did nothing wrong.
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Old 10-23-2013, 09:34 AM   #15
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Unfortunately, men do not take rejection too kindly. (Sorry guys.) Cat, please be careful. This 'boy' just might be looking for revenge against you. And this tire slashing could be his doing. Until this matter is resolved and the culprit is caught, look over your shoulder all the time. Be aware of your surroundings, specially after dark. And you must report this not only to the campus police, but to the town police. The more authorities that know of this incident, the better. Get a loud whistle. A big one and wear it around your neck all the time. If at any time you feel you are in any danger, blow that long and loud.

Cat, I hate to scare you, but I fear for your safety with this boy. My heart is broken that you are going through this. You are so sweet and you don't deserve this treatment. We all care about you. Here's one for you. Looks like you need her. Our prayers are with you all the time.
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Old 10-23-2013, 10:15 AM   #16
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Unfortunately, men do not take rejection too kindly. (Sorry guys.)
Criminy, Addie. Please don't make such sweeping generalizations. No one takes rejection kindly, but most people don't resort to vandalism or violence over it.
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Old 10-23-2013, 10:44 AM   #17
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Tires "job" sounds to me like the same people who sprayed silly strings or whatever that stuff is called. The university brushed it of then and look what is going on now. i think it is time to go to police, not just university. This is serious crime and has to be dealt as such.
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Old 10-23-2013, 11:13 AM   #18
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Criminy, Addie. Please don't make such sweeping generalizations. No one takes rejection kindly, but most people don't resort to vandalism or violence over it.
Absolutely agree. And for the record, it's not only men who don't like rejection. I've met women who are the same way.

But to slash someone's tires goes far beyond being upset. That's a criminal offense, and the person or persons responsible need a lesson to come out of this, up to and including jail time. Most parking lots have cameras these days. Hopefully one of them can help identify the culprit.
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Old 10-23-2013, 01:57 PM   #19
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We have good news!
The university took swift action. The two boys were caught, arrested, charged and expelled. Eight students turned them in. Cat found out that she has quite a few friends there. One of her friends, L, got them together to check on Cat's car randomly. L gave them a name, as of a gang: "Cat's Posse." These students are going to support her through this and go to court with her. Cat took out personal charges against the boys this morning at the magistrate's office, and three students followed her and stood with her as she did this.
Cat absolutely refuses to leave the university. She told me on the phone that the American forefathers didn't give in to the British, and so she wasn't going to give in to bullies. Another girl told Cat she would loan Cat her gun.
This time, the only time Cat had tears was when she told me of this outpouring of support. And of course, she cried terribly over the loss of her uncle.
The university has apologized to us and to Cat. Cat won't leave because she has support of the students and she owes them to stand her ground.
This is where we are now. Also, we are going to sue the boys' parents. We feel, in this case, the parents are responsible as well. What kind of parents are these to raise children like this?
So, Cat has put her little size 4 foot down and she won't budge. She is determined to see this through and Cat's Posse is with her. Some of them were bullied, and they want to rise up against bullying.
Damn kids. Stubborn, stubborn, stubborn!
One boy, who likes Cat, was so angry yesterday it brought on an asthma attack in him. Cat felt terrible about this, and tried to comfort him.
I think she touches people without understanding she does this. She was very surprised of the support she has. But as I think about this, it really isn't such a surprise, is it?
We will be there next month, and we'll assess the situation. Aunty Stela is very proud of Cat, and so are we. Although I hate this situation, I have to let Cat do what she feels is right, for she is an adult now.
I think the people at the hospital from where we adopted Cat forgot to tell us she has a spine of steel.
Thank you all for being with her on this. She will be back soon, I think. She is resolved and firm and is going to see this through.

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Old 10-23-2013, 02:05 PM   #20
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MammaCat, that's wonderful news. I'm so pleased to hear about Cat's Posse. I'm also pleased that the boys were turned in by students and arrested and expelled. It's good that the university has apologized. I hope that means they now understand that bullying has to be nipped in the bud.
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