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Old 06-15-2007, 06:50 PM   #261
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In the midst of my father's 80th birthday party, my daughter Kiersten's 20th birthday (July7),and my son's wedding stuff ,there is a very important date we will be celebrating .On July 20th Kiersten(my daughter) will have maintained her contract weight for an entire year.The past two summers she was hospitalized for anorexia.Though she struggles every day, she is winning the battles and a year is quite an achievement.We are very proud of her and not so much in fear anymore to losing her to this God forsaken disease.It is such a delight to watch her rise above and defeat that which had crippled her.I want to plan something very special for her and once we get past my father's party next weekend I will start.There is alot going on here- more than I can get into but, I WILL NOT lose sight of this important feat in her life.Thank you for listening/reading.Love and energy, Vicki
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Old 06-15-2007, 07:01 PM   #262
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YAHOO! Vicky what a triumph for your daughter. My hearty congratulations to her, that is a tough thing to do!
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Old 06-15-2007, 07:10 PM   #263
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Thats is so great ! She has done a great job, congrats.!! You have every right to be so very proud of her.
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Old 06-15-2007, 07:29 PM   #264
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Thank you both!! All I can offer to anyone who has someone struggling from an eating disorder is that they must be wanting to get better - no one can make them get better. It took a very long time -Kiersten was diagnosed as an anorexic when she was 12. It was about 6 months after the death of her brother.It was a matter of control for her but, it became more than that and it wasn't until last summer after all those years of treatment that she decided she wanted to get better.She had actually signed herself into the hospital.As a parent already having lost one child and watching another starve herself -there are no words to describe what life was like.I am just greatful that my hardheaded little girl deicded to take a positive turn and put her hardheadness to good use!!!Love and energy, Vicki
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Old 06-15-2007, 07:54 PM   #265
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Thank you both!! All I can offer to anyone who has someone struggling from an eating disorder is that they must be wanting to get better - no one can make them get better. It took a very long time -Kiersten was diagnosed as an anorexic when she was 12. It was about 6 months after the death of her brother.It was a matter of control for her but, it became more than that and it wasn't until last summer after all those years of treatment that she decided she wanted to get better.She had actually signed herself into the hospital.As a parent already having lost one child and watching another starve herself -there are no words to describe what life was like.I am just greatful that my hardheaded little girl deicded to take a positive turn and put her hardheadness to good use!!!Love and energy, Vicki
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at the time her hardheadedness had you worried sick, but, it turned into an advantage for her. She is rising above an illness that destroys so many young people...Having parents who were at her side, who truly cared and showed it helped her so much. I'm so happy for you and your family..Having a niece who managed to get passed the worst of it and has gone forward, who is now graduationg with high honors from college, I can see how hard you all have fought to be where you are today..Congratulations to all of you and especially to Kiersten for all her hard work..She is heads above the rest..

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Old 06-18-2007, 08:57 AM   #266
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When I was in my late teens/early 20s I had problems with anorexia/bulemia. Those words did not exist, and because I am large boned, no one really noticed. I got thinner and thinner and got more and more compliments. No one noticed I was going the the bathroom after every bite I ate. I was just thinner, and thinner is better, right?

To me the best you can do as she gains weight is to not say anything about it. Period. Make sure that there is always plenty of good, nutritious food around. Meat and cheese platters. Bean dip and hummus. Bread. If she is truly trying to recover, these foods will help. Any comments on her weight no matter how well-intentioned, will just make her feel self-conscious about it.
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Old 06-18-2007, 01:27 PM   #267
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CJ and Claire- Thank you for your kind words.Claire- I do try to keep all her favs around and she has conciously made an effort to eat- I NEVER ask her anymore if she has eaten but, I will ask her if there is anything imparticular she would like me to get when I go grocery shopping or even for a dinner idea and she seems to like this.I can't say that we still don't feel like we're walking on eggshells but, it does feel like we've been given a couple of layers of thin padding underneath!!!Thanks again. Love and energy, Vicki
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Old 06-18-2007, 04:15 PM   #268
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great news, VickiQ! I know you have been very worried about this. Bravo to your daughter.
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Barbara, Alix and Vicki,
Congrats to you all! Barbara: Things come and go in a marriage but what matters is that true love stays forever. Alix: Great job on your daughter's grades. She gets it from you. Vicki: I feel for people with this condition but thankfully she had you to support her. Congratulations and best wishes to you and your girl to a healthier future.
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Old 06-25-2007, 11:06 AM   #270
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Thanks Dina!

Today I am celebrating nothing in particular. Its just a beautiful day and my family is well and healthy.
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