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Old 02-07-2008, 11:20 AM   #1
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Could you tell me how the computer has changed your life, is it positive or negative? I was watching a show last night about people getting introduced to one another. They do this through the computer. This seems so impersonal to me. When I was young, ho ho, I introduced many of my friends to the current husbands. In other words, they are married for more than 40 years. This was out of a group of 15 couples. I consider that an accomplishment that they made it last and are as committed. Someone asked where Bilby was? No way to contact this person, other than the computer. That is what made me think about the way life has changed. There really isn't that personal connection that used to be. Why even going to church has changed with the tv and computer. I must admit that I ask you people questions that I wouldn't really ask my friends. Has the computer made this change for the better? I do remember when I wouldn't be afraid to ask them questions about my choices or problems. Now the computer is the mediator between me and the people who respond to my question. I don't see this person, so I have to believe what they tell me is someone being honest or just trying to make a fool of me?

This show with all these people wanting to meet someone sure depressed me. Paying someone to do this makes the whole thing put on a monetary basis. Are people really marrying one another because someone told them they were suited or are their feelings involved?

I do wonder where Bilby is? Who can call and find out or even know if she wants to be bothered? We don't really know her personality. Does anyone ever question the things we do everyday and do it only because thing everyone else is doing? We are lost without computer. Would we feel just as bad without Bilby?

Thanks for your thoughts and time.


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Old 02-07-2008, 11:45 AM   #2
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I have to admit that I don't have a lot of online friends. This is really the only forum where I contribute and feel any connection with the others in the forum. I guess I trust folks here because I have seen for myself that the majority here are truthful. The recipes and tips I have received and tried from here have all been spot-on so that makes me feel they are being truthful. As far as other ways the computer has changed my life, I have learned so much from searching the internet. Sometimes it is time consuming wading through a lot of stuff to find that piece of info you need or want. I first went to college in the 70's and computers were not used for the many things they are now. I look back on my research papers and studies from then to the research papers and studies I do now. I'm very grateful for my computer! I may use email to keep in touch with friends who don't live nearby and use it to contact people locally with info but feel I get enough "face time" with people. The dating process has become very media driven. We are to find our "soulmate" and have this passionate relationship. The man must be an adonis and the woman must be a supermodel. I think we have pushed the romantic too far and have forgotten the deeper committments to care for one another. Online dating is just an extension of this need to seek perfection. The problem is we are all imperfect! Yes there will be some sleezeballs out there online but they are there whether you're online or not! There will always be people who enjoy making fools of others. Online is easier since you do have a degree of anonymity. You may say something in email or online that you would never think about saying to someone's face. The computer is here to stay and we are seeing new rules to govern behavior online appear. So we may eventually tame the beast to a degree but just a we will always have that seemier side of life, it will always be lurking here online as well.

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Old 02-07-2008, 11:55 AM   #3
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The life changed in general with or with out computers. It is so much faster and so much busier than ever. there is not time for anything. So in the way it is good there is a computer and if you can find time to post here or elsewhere you find friends this way. I have plenty of real friends, but I don't knoif they are real anymore, I think people here are moore real to me, because I can ask anything I want and say anything I want the real people are just not the same as they were some 30-40 years ago.
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Old 02-07-2008, 12:03 PM   #4
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I believe the advent of the computer has forever enhanced relationships and access to information.

Many years ago, back on Walton's Mountain, the world was a huge place. Because it was so difficult to access the world, many people met and married within their community (sometimes within their family ). Very few people had access to information, advanced education and communication with the 'outside world' (anybody else remember when a "long distance" phone call was a big deal?).

Today I rarely 'wonder' about things very long. Having a computer and Internet access is like having the World Book Encyclopedia and Dictionary and Thesaurus always open to the right page. It allows me to communicate and share ideas with people all over the world. It allows me to MEET wonderful people with whom I would have otherwise had no chance of meeting. Through development of on line friendships with people on message boards like this I have met in person with several people who have become my friends (and more). I met my girlfriend on a message board similar to this one (not a 'desperately dating' site) almost seven years ago. The 'friendship' and anonymity allowed us to share truths about ourselves instead of trying to 'impress'. The friendship developed into real life feelings. We now live together and are plan to get married.

Computer change my life? You BET! I can't imagine life without it now and, while I know I would have found a way to be happy if I hadn't met my girlfriend, she is my best friend and the greatest thing that ever happened to me.
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Old 02-07-2008, 03:22 PM   #5
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Could you tell me how the computer has changed your life, is it positive or negative? ...Thanks for your thoughts and time.
The computer has definitely changed my life in many ways - mostly for the positive. Some negative.

On the positive side:

Great vehicle to gain knowledge & research w/o leaving home.

Paying bills, banking, shopping buying stamps & having pkgs p/u on line.

Food/recipes - most of the mags I subscribed to now have all the info on line.

Grocery delivery from local chains & gourmet (?) sites.

Checking the news/weather etc - rather than sit in front of the TV for an hour.

The neg side:

I spend more time than I should on the puter, when I should/could be doing other things face to face with people, & around the house etc.

It is an added expense when you lop on high speed, wireless etc etc. & upgrades.

I can't speak for computer dating, as I would rather meet someone face to face.

I enjoy playing games on the puter, but know my time would be best spent doing what I need to do. Yet, it's a stress reliever for me.

The computer is a great resource, but can also be very frustrating when we rely on technology to store all our personal data etc. & are 'lost' without it.

In short, personally, I need to turn it off & interact more with real people - humans
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Old 02-08-2008, 07:59 AM   #6
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All my life I have tried to have balance in my life. Not easy. Since the computer has been brought into the home, the hours everyone has just talking together seems to have almost stopped. Rather than having everyday conversations they are involved in responding to 'computer family'. I just can notice the sleep they should have is by passed. Sometimes only 3 hours sleep and then off to work. Can someone function without sleep? I don't think so. I am sure your job or school will suffer somewhat.

amy, what you said at the very end is so true and important today.

n short, personally, I need to turn it off & interact more with real people - humans
Now if only I can convince my family, maybe I will get some rest.

The computer has definitely affected everyone's life. Thanks to you all for your personal comments. I appreciate them all. What would I do without them?
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Old 02-08-2008, 08:17 AM   #7
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itk, good to see you. i was just thinking of you the other day, and hoped you were well, and still checking in here.

ya know, i have no ther way of seeing you.

in many debates over many pints in many pubs, i've come to the conclusion that communication and education are going to be this world's salvation.

computers and the internet go a long way to supplying a medium for both.
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Old 02-08-2008, 08:53 AM   #8
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it has very MUCH changed my life, and for the better.

1) although I Love my books and own several thousand of them, it`s nice to have the Lab shelves freed up a little for other things, as I have access to the worlds biggest Library right at my keyboard.

2) although I use mine a Glorified telephone / Coms device, it has lead to many meetings with other net users and indeed good friendships.

3) I can`t begin to tell you the amount of Thank-Yous I`v had from around the world for helping people with their Science (on another site), that facility would not be possible any other way, and it gives me a sense of "Job satisfaction", although it`s a Pleasure to do rather than a "Job".

4) I have Also been helped by a whole variety of people and have issued such thank-yous myself.

5) last but certainly not least, where else can you get such a quantity of Pr0n for FREE :D
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Old 02-08-2008, 09:20 AM   #9
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Your #5 is genius YT!!!

I have many many positive things about using computers. The biggest one, I met my wonderful fabulous British husband on Match.com! I would never have met him without the use of a computer. Some people think it's impersonal to meet online, I can see why. For us, it was amazing how much we got to know each others personalities before actually meeting face to face.

Without computers I wouldn't have Skype, which has enabled me to communicate with my family and friends back home since I moved to England.

All of the positive things Amy mentioned in her post, I do so much online shopping!

My blog and photo storage are online, which also keep me communicating with f & f.

I have met other expats online, which have made the transition of being in a foreign country a bit easier.

Without a computer I wouldn't have found all of you lovely people on Discuss Cooking!!
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Old 02-08-2008, 10:59 AM   #10
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The internet has changed my life immensely I have access to so much information that I would not get otherwise. Anything I want to know about/learn or any problem I want to solve its in there. DC is also awsome the cream of the crop here. Plus I can compare prices get reviews on things I want to buy. And the shopping for hard to get ingredients is wonderful. Living in the middle of nowhere I'm now connected to the entire world. I can find people I have not seen in a long time. Reserve hotels make plane reservations you name it. It truly is the information super highway.

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