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Old 06-03-2013, 06:56 PM   #191
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You two sound like you really did right by your family. My home was broken before it was the norm. I was the unwanted child (pre- birth control) & I was told how unwanted I was.

I've been on my own since 14 basically. I was a runaway at most of my 14th year & I finally ran away, for good, on March 20, 1980. I never signed myself out of school. I lied about my age, got a full time job & rented a one room apartment & I have been on my own ever since.

I think I did pretty good considering my circumstances. I don't blame my parents for anything I did & I tried saying I was sorry for my actions a few times but they never said sorry for the abuse & lack of love they never gave me so they aren't in my life anymore. They were toxic for me. My mother has now passed on & I forgave her for everything before she passed but I cannot forgive my father for the way he treated me, ever. Everything was my fault as far as he was concerned & he has his head so full of lies about things that never happened that I could care less when he does go on.

Now, I am married to a man who had a Brady Bunch upbringing. His family is/was fantastic to me. I miss my late FIL & late MIL so very much. They were good people. I took care of his mother for close to 3 years before we lost her & I still choke up when I think about her. She died on Christmas 2006 so when the holidays come around I get grumpy.
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Old 06-04-2013, 05:24 PM   #192
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You two sound like you really did right by your family. My home was broken before it was the norm. I was the unwanted child (pre- birth control) & I was told how unwanted I was.

I've been on my own since 14 basically. I was a runaway at most of my 14th year & I finally ran away, for good, on March 20, 1980. I never signed myself out of school. I lied about my age, got a full time job & rented a one room apartment & I have been on my own ever since.

I think I did pretty good considering my circumstances. I don't blame my parents for anything I did & I tried saying I was sorry for my actions a few times but they never said sorry for the abuse & lack of love they never gave me so they aren't in my life anymore. They were toxic for me. My mother has now passed on & I forgave her for everything before she passed but I cannot forgive my father for the way he treated me, ever. Everything was my fault as far as he was concerned & he has his head so full of lies about things that never happened that I could care less when he does go on.

Now, I am married to a man who had a Brady Bunch upbringing. His family is/was fantastic to me. I miss my late FIL & late MIL so very much. They were good people. I took care of his mother for close to 3 years before we lost her & I still choke up when I think about her. She died on Christmas 2006 so when the holidays come around I get grumpy.
Don't know what your religious persuasion is, and am not going to preach. Let's just say that I believe there was a savior, who overcame death for us, and that we will be able to see our loved ones again. And that makes the holiday very good for me, no matter what happens in mortal life. Maybe it can help you too.

Seeeeeeya; Chief Longwind of the North
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Old 06-04-2013, 08:31 PM   #193
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Old 07-02-2013, 06:29 PM   #194
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Chief Longwind's Tip of the Day

It is far better to be rich in family, experience, and memories than to be rich in materials or wealth. I have lived for 57 years now, and have enjoyed experiences that many will never experience. I have gotten a ride in a U.S. Navy jet, have ridden a motorcycle off of a cliff, have enjoyed scuba, downhill skiing, tobogganing, snowmowbililng, horseback riding, bull-fighting an ornery Angora Goat, hunting fishing, archery, dirt-biking on ridiculously challenging hills, and on, and on, and on. But what makes life worth living, is the freinds that I experienced all those things with. And better still, The extraordinary relationships I have with my wife and children.

If I had to choose between all of the wealth, and being single, or being flat broke, but with my family, I would choose my family.

I could have remained at one job, and been retired by now. That job took me away from those I love too often, and for too long. Instead, I chose to watch my children grow, to support my partner in life (DW), and to immerse myself in their lives. I am richer than the wealthiest of men.

Tip 2: A good paying job that you love, is far better than a great paying job that you hate. Most of us end up somewhere in the middle.

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Old 07-04-2013, 10:05 AM   #195
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Many years ago, when I was a young sailor, and had only been married a couple of years, a couple of friends, and a guy I only knew because he worked in the same shop as I did, wanted to come over and have a friendly game of poker at my home. This was a very unique experience for me as I don't gamble, though I knew the game. I said ok. The night came, and the three men showed up. The guy I didn't really know very well, as he walked into my home, turned to me, and with a very stern face said, and I quote, "I get ugly when I loose." He was trying to intimidate me. And though I was in spectacular physical shape in those years, and had judo training, I am not a brawler. Rather, i am a peacemaker. And so, he was on the edge of intimidating me, in my own home, in front of my wife. Fortunately, the other guests let him know that his behavior would not be tolerated. In retrospect, I believe I should have responded thusly - "Well you must lose an awful lot then. "Cause you're ugly all the time."

My tip of the day; Don't let fools intimidate you. Usually, bullies will back down. In fact, every time I have stood up to a bully, they backed down. In that instance, I could have turned his own intimidation against that clown, and gained respect. On the other hand, I like that I'm a peacemaker rather than a trouble maker.

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Old 07-04-2013, 03:36 PM   #196
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I agree, Chief. I got free beers from bartenders often because I'd see friends about to have a fight and just would walk between them and stop, giving them a moment to think about it.

It worked every time.
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I agree, Chief. I got free beers from bartenders often because I'd see friends about to have a fight and just would walk between them and stop, giving them a moment to think about it.

It worked every time.
I like that. Sometimes it just pays to be a peacemaker. One time, in this neighborhood I used to live in, with my DW and kids, we had a huge playground area for the kids, a big open field that was about the size of a football field. One day, I was out back, getting ready to do some household chore, and I noticed two, young, teenage girls begin to fight with each other. Now I'm not talking about a shouting match, but a downright brawl. Fists were flying. By the time I sprinted from where I was to where they were, a crowd of about seven or eight adults had circled the girls to watch the spectacle. I made my way between them, and broke up the fight, sending both girls in opposite directions. Can you believe that I was fussed at by the adults for breaking up their night's entertainment? I was shocked.

Sadly, this wasn't the first, and probably won't be the last time I witness bad behavior by those who are supposed to be setting the example. It seems that our civilization is becoming more desperate by the minute, even though I know there have always been pinheads around.

Chief Longwind's Tip of the Day: Take the high road. It might just get you a free beer (though I never touch the stuff). Better yet, it might just set an example that can help someone improve their own life. And never puff yourself up for any good thing you have done. Puffing up merely pops your buttons, exposing parts of you no one wants to see.

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Old 07-05-2013, 02:33 AM   #198
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Chief, those folks who fussed at you are the same ones who yell "Jump!" to the poor soul on the ledge.
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Old 07-24-2013, 12:23 PM   #199
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Chief's Tip of the Day;

When I'm feeling drowsy, and need to be alert, whether at work, or home, I eat a teaspoon of my home-made hot sauce, made with ghost peppers. It's not so hot as to scorch my mouth (I tolerate really hot peppers well), but if it were to go up my nose (like if I sneezed), or down the wrong hole, I know I would be in distress. My brain and body react to the pepper, making me wide awake and alert. The effect lasts for three or more hours.

I wouldn't recommend everyone using the Buhk Jalokia pepper sauce that I make, but as hot as you can tolerate. Your body will go on high alert after downing a teaspoon or so. And, it's healthy, full of good nutrients, and nothing to harm you. It's also non-habit forming. I know it works wonderfully for me.

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I would have never thought of that, but I can see that it might work. I'll have to give it a try.
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