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Old 10-09-2007, 11:34 PM   #911
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I should have mentioned she is a Hospice Chaplain at St. Johns Hospital in Indiana

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Old 10-10-2007, 12:56 AM   #912
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Marge, I'm so glad your sister can come to be there with you. This is something no mother should ever have to face, but to face it alone is unbearable. If we all could, we'd be there with you to help you. The courage and spirit John and Sandie and all of you have shown throughout this terrible ordeal truly humbles me. I don't know how many of us could still manage to worry about and care for everyone else in the face of this awful disease. I have you in my prayers and thoughts daily.
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Old 10-10-2007, 08:15 AM   #913
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Marge, it is good your sister is coming. I am at a loss of words, I wish I could say something that could make you feel better and help this situation but I can't think of one thing.....so I will continue on with prayers for you and your family. I think of you every day friend. {{{{{{marge}}}}}}}
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Old 10-10-2007, 08:42 AM   #914
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Dear Marge, Prayers continue for your son and for you. Bless your sister, it's so good she is coming. This is hard, prayers must be prayed in full faith and at the same time John should not suffer. May God bless you all. David
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Old 10-10-2007, 09:17 AM   #915
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Marge, it is good your sister is coming. I am at a loss of words, I wish I could say something that could make you feel better and help this situation but I can't think of one thing.....so I will continue on with prayers for you and your family. I think of you every day friend. {{{{{{marge}}}}}}}
Thanks, Michele, for saying exactly what is in my heart right now.

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Old 10-10-2007, 09:37 AM   #916
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Oh Marge,
I've missed some of this the past week and I'm so sorry sweetie. My prayers continue, we all love you so.Oh if only I wasn't tied to a machine, I'd have DH bring me to you if you wanted or needed it. You all are in my thoughts and my heart Marge..You are so dearly loved.
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Old 10-10-2007, 12:04 PM   #917
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All I can so is I'm sorry - I'm so very, very sorry. Prayers will never stop.

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Old 10-10-2007, 12:08 PM   #918
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Hi Marge; I won't act as if it's over until it's over. But I do know what you are going through. I watched my Dad, and my step-father both die of cancer. My step-father died in long-term care and so I wasn't at his side as much as I was with my Dad, but I was there often. My Dad stayed at my sister's house and she, my wife, and I took turns taking care of him, washing him, helping with feeding, keeping various tubes and such in place, monitoring his condition and other things that hopsice instructed us to do when they weren't on-site. We saw some of the best, and the worst of him during this period. And we loved him harder than ever during the last year of his life.

I sat by my Mother's bedside durig her last weeks. I saw her beg for water as she wasn't allowed it due to her lungs filling with fluid. We could only give her ice chips, by doctor's orders. She was greatful for them. It broke our hearts. And then, finally, she passed from mortality. And we knew that she was in a place where she would never thirst again, or feel the pain of a failing mortal body.

Yes, what you go through is heart-breaking, and feels like it is tearing your spirit apart. But you get through it and life goes on. You still take care of the other people in your life, as you should. And the person, be it your morther, your son, sister, brother, or dad, they want you to be strong, and happy, and not feel sorry for them. They come to accept the inevitable, because they have no choice. And they come to know that there is a place awaiting them on the other side of mortality.

And us, the people left behind feel a great emptiness when they are gone. We feel a whole gamut of emotions, ranging from gut-wrinching sorrow, to anger, to great love, to sympathy for the others who share our grief, and finally, to a sense of calm, remembering the love of our Celestial Father, to whom our departed have gone to. And we know that they feel no more pain, and that they look forward to seeing us again, in the future, when we too pass from mortality. And we know that they are visiting loved ones who have gone before them, re-uniting with family and freinds.

Life goes on for us, and we keep the memories strong, and take little pieces from our loved ones, a favorite airplane model, or a piece of archery equipment that they used, or a special shirt, whatever it may be that will help keep the memory alive. Myself, I chose to adopt some of my parents' personalities into myself, some little thing they did consistantly in their life, like cooking eggs in bacon grease, splashing it over top of the egg until the membraned covering the yolk turned pink (that was my Step-father's favorite kind of egg), or tying fishing flies (my Dad did that), or making date-filled cookies at Christmas (from my Mother). These things help me keep in touch with them.

If John pulls through, then that is a blessing that you will cherish. If he doesn't, then cherish the fact that mortality is a temporary thing for all of us, and that we can be re-united in the after-life. The seperation isn't final. And in the time between, we can hold on to each other through memories and actions. Remember the life, not the death. And love each other with every fiber of your being.

You and your family will weather this crisis, and will come out shining in the end of it all, because of the strength of your family, and your beliefs.

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Old 10-10-2007, 01:52 PM   #919
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I told Kevin to tell him tomorrow that "Mom is strong..don't worry about her"....a little white lie won't hurt..will it?
You are stronger than you know Marge. It is never weakness to hurt for your children. I can't even pretend to know what you are going through right now. All I can do is offer my prayers and support. If there is ever anything James and I can do for you, we will do it in a heartbeat.

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Old 10-10-2007, 02:04 PM   #920
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Marge, please please don't give up. There are so many prayers going up and God grants miracles every day.

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