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Old 06-03-2013, 04:50 PM   #931
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I'm glad to see that your pain is easing Addie.
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Old 06-03-2013, 05:16 PM   #932
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I'm glad to see that your pain is easing Addie.
Thank you. Right now the Vicodin has kicked in and I am pain free. I don't know for how long, but I will take it. And I can take nice deep breaths. I think I am going to live. Sorry kids. You will have to wait to get my stuff.
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Old 06-03-2013, 05:35 PM   #933
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Today I had to do something that I didn't want to face. I had to change some information regarding my daughter. Because she is my legal next of kin, I had her listed as the one to handle all my financial affairs. So I had to change it to Spike. She is still the executor of my will, but I think she will hand it off to Spike. She can't even handle her own affairs. Her husband has been doing it all for her. I have noticed that she is becoming dependent on others more and more. She doesn't even drive herself anywhere now. Spike is aware of all my requests. Who gets what. It is a subject that the both of us can talk about easily. My daughter gets upset when I even bring up the subject just joking around.

One day when I was at her home, she was walking around and counting all the things I had given her over the years. Her KA mixer, her strainers, cooking utensils, large 12" frying pan, etc. So many things. She picked up the afghan I made for her and hugged it. Then she started to cry. I can't help wonder how often she does this. Is she thinking of her own mortality or mine. I let her cry it out. Evidently it was something she needed to do. That is when I knew I had to make some changes. Her mental state has definitely changed. Taking on the responsibility of my affairs would be more than she could handle.
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Old 06-03-2013, 06:45 PM   #934
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I'm so sorry she is dealing with this. You had a tough task to face but luckily you are still able to do this for yourself.

I have nothing set up for us at all. I know I should but we don't have anyone to give our stuff too when the time comes. I am estranged from my daughter. I haven't seen my GD in 8 years. I think she'll be 10 next month. I heard I have a GS but I have never met him so there is no way I will leave anything to my daughter anyhow. I was only good to her when she needed something & once I stopped giving, she cut me out of her life.

My hubby & I don't have any kids together so I don't think I care what happens to our stuff if we would leave this world together. Let the state have it, I really don't care.
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Old 06-03-2013, 06:58 PM   #935
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I'm so sorry she is dealing with this. You had a tough task to face but luckily you are still able to do this for yourself.

I have nothing set up for us at all. I know I should but we don't have anyone to give our stuff too when the time comes. I am estranged from my daughter. I haven't seen my GD in 8 years. I think she'll be 10 next month. I heard I have a GS but I have never met him so there is no way I will leave anything to my daughter anyhow. I was only good to her when she needed something & once I stopped giving, she cut me out of her life.

My hubby & I don't have any kids together so I don't think I care what happens to our stuff if we would leave this world together. Let the state have it, I really don't care.
You can make out a will that it is to go to the Salvation Army or Goodwill. It can be repaired or cleaned and sold in their stores. They will send someone to clean out your home. Just note that if you have anything of value such as jewelry, like your wedding and engagement rings, it is to go to them. Otherwise your daughter may contest the will and want what is valuable for the purpose of selling it. Otherwise it will left at the curb for the trash truck to pick it up. Including the rings.
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Old 06-03-2013, 08:31 PM   #936
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There are 15 years between Shrek and me...I get everything. If we both go together my brother knows what to do with everything.
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Old 06-03-2013, 08:48 PM   #937
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Well I just got good news. Spike went to see his doctor about the rash on his arm. It is sun related. There is a possibility that he is allergic to the sun. One less worry for me.
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Old 06-03-2013, 09:08 PM   #938
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Well I just got good news. Spike went to see his doctor about the rash on his arm. It is sun related. There is a possibility that he is allergic to the sun. One less worry for me.
I'm allergic to the sun too...but I think it has more to do with being a creature of the night...
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Old 06-03-2013, 09:26 PM   #939
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I'm allergic to the sun too...but I think it has more to do with being a creature of the night...
I am not allergic to the sun, but because I get those hematomas from the blood thinners, when the sun hits one of them the blood almost boils. My skin is so thin and fragile, that I haave to stay out of the sun as much as possible. Hence the expression, "he/she makes my blood boil."
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Sasha,Sasha,Sasha!!! (THINK all caps)


why do my caps all turn into lower case when i post?


what i MEANT to say was, SASHA, SASHA, SASHA
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