"Discover Cooking, Discuss Life."

Go Back   Discuss Cooking - Cooking Forums > The Back Porch > Off Topic Discussions
Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
 
Old 12-24-2011, 09:40 AM   #11
Master Chef
 
Vanilla Bean's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Washington State
Posts: 7,133
I know this year is not a good one for me. My thoughts are with you, babe. Christmas was always such a celebration for my family.
__________________

__________________
A little kindness goes a long way.
Vanilla Bean is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-24-2011, 02:35 PM   #12
Contest Winner
 
Maidrite's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2005
Location: Pageland SC
Posts: 3,114
Talking

Come Share Christmas with me.........Its always a Hoot HERE ;) Hugs and Love and I will say a Prayer for you Dear..........
__________________

__________________
If you need a smile, take mine, I'll make a new one.
Maidrite is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-24-2011, 03:11 PM   #13
Chef Extraordinaire
 
babetoo's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: escondido, calif. near san diego
Posts: 14,349
thank you all for the good thoughts. p.s.t.d has it's own way of making the grief intrusive. i have seen lots of shrinks and counselers. i am not saying it is the same as it was, it is not. i am on three drugs for the pstd. this feeling is seasonal and probably always will be. i don't bring it up at gatherings anymore. no one has a clue, where i am in this sad journey. del was my soul mate, the love of my life. his death left a large hole in my life.
i will enjoy the great grandchildren. my granddaughter has planned what sounds like much fun. going to a christmas eve party. my, daughter and two of my granddaughters will be there. i am looking forward to it.

again thanks and all my love, merry christmas to all.
__________________
"life isn't about how to survive the storm but how to dance in the rain"
babetoo is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-24-2011, 08:30 PM   #14
Executive Chef
 
chopper's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: Colorado
Posts: 4,345
Merry Christmas Babe. God bless you. Holes left in our hearts by loved ones passed are hard to fill, it must be unbearable when the loss is so horrific. Christmas time can be a depressing time for all of us. The only thing that seems to help is having children around. You are so blessed to have those wonderful great grand children in your life. May they bring you comfort at this difficult time.
__________________
No matter where I serve my guests, it seems they like my kitchen best!
chopper is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-24-2011, 09:50 PM   #15
Chef Extraordinaire
 
pacanis's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: NW PA
Posts: 18,751
We all have our own griefs and at various times, but the holidays seems to amplify things.
__________________
Give us this day our daily bacon.
pacanis is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-24-2011, 10:01 PM   #16
Master Chef
 
Join Date: Sep 2004
Location: Galena, IL
Posts: 7,973
Quote:
Originally Posted by pacanis View Post
We all have our own griefs and at various times, but the holidays seems to amplify things.
I think this is because we tend to think "everyone else" is having the time of their lives, when in fact, for easily half the people I've known in my life, the holidays bring on depression rather than joy. There are many reasons for the depression, but often it has to do with thinking you aren't measuring up. I should be over this. I should have bought better presents. I should have a better job. I should..... Well, guess what? The people who supposedly have all that cr*p aren't really happy. They're just looking for more cr*p that they can't afford. Simplify is often it for people.
__________________
Claire is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-25-2011, 09:46 AM   #17
Executive Chef
 
bakechef's Avatar
Site Moderator
 
Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: North Carolina
Posts: 4,082
I used to be a christmas fanatic. I don't know what has happened over the last few years but I start to dread it now. I just go through the motions trying to make others holiday nice. If my mom didn't come to visit and family wasn't coming to our house, I wouldn't even bother to decorate. I actually hated the whole experience of putting up the tree. I just think of how much money we could save just ignoring the whole thing.

This is the first year without my dad, and that just compounds the problem. If I didn't have a big vacation to look forward to next month, I don't know how I would deal with this holiday.

Yesterday we traveled to my sister's lake house, had a lot of fun, and great food. On the long drive home, there were lots of christmas light displays and we had christmas music playing in the car, and yet my christmas spirit still wasn't sparked, I give up!
__________________
I'm Bloggin'

http://bakingbetter.com
bakechef is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-25-2011, 11:08 AM   #18
Chef Extraordinaire
 
Addie's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2011
Location: East Boston, MA
Posts: 19,047
One year I told my sister I was going to my daughter's and told my daughter that I was going to my sister's houe. so I stayed home, slept in and had a quiet day. I did it again the next year. But I got caught when my sister called my daughter and asked for me.

Little by little I did away with Christmas. My youngest was growing up and wanted to spend the holiday with his friends. Fine with me. Less work. Then my daughter died. I wanted to give her children a Christmas they wouldn't forget. After all Christmas is for small kids. So the day after Thanksgiving I put the tree up with the lights.

All my decorations were wooden and child safe. All the grandchilden (10 of them at that time) would come and decorate the tree. You could tell who decorated what part. It was not the prettiest tree in town, but it was their tree. Then each child got a half of the Pillsbury cookie Christmas roll and they went into the oven. While they were baking there was a craft for them to do. The older kids helped the little ones. Next it was time for them to eat their cookies with a cup of cocoa. By then I was exhausted. Time for the kids to go home. The tree stayed like it was. The little ones thought it was the most beautiful tree in the world because they helped decorate it.

I did this for three years. Then my health started on its downhill slide. The children still remember it, and when I was getting rid of my decorations, they each picked a favorite one for their tree. My daughter's five children one year picked a large wooden star and glued a picture of their mother on it. Needless to say, they still hang it on their own trees now. I gave all of my grandchildren Christmas. I know that someday they will become jaded like the rest of us. But they have a memory that will not fade.
__________________
Illegitimi non carborundum!
I don't want my last words to be, "I wish I had spent more time doing housework"
Addie is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-25-2011, 11:39 AM   #19
Master Chef
 
Aunt Bea's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: near Mount Pilot
Posts: 7,005
Every year my Christmas gets smaller and smaller but, I still celebrate!

Sometimes when I am getting ready I feel like I am getting ready for a doll's tea party. (Think Mad Hatter! )

I enjoy my little celebrations and I enjoy my memories of the many Christmas times that have passed.

The flame still burns bright!

Ya gotta believe!

So when ya feel yer elastic letting go hitch up yer panties and grab a safety pin, it's Christmas!

Have a great day everybody!
__________________
Aunt Bea is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-25-2011, 11:48 AM   #20
Chef Extraordinaire
 
taxlady's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: near Montreal, Quebec, Canada
Posts: 18,885
Send a message via Skype™ to taxlady
Quote:
Originally Posted by Aunt Bea View Post
...

So when ya feel yer elastic letting go hitch up yer panties and grab a safety pin, it's Christmas!

...
I'm not quite sure what that means, but I like it.
__________________

__________________
May you live as long as you wish and love as long as you live.
Robert A. Heinlein
taxlady is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off



» Discuss Cooking on Facebook

Our Communities

Our communities encompass many different hobbies and interests, but each one is built on friendly, intelligent membership.

» More about our Communities

Automotive Communities

Our Automotive communities encompass many different makes and models. From U.S. domestics to European Saloons.

» More about our Automotive Communities

Marine Communities

Our Marine websites focus on Cruising and Sailing Vessels, including forums and the largest cruising Wiki project on the web today.

» More about our Marine Communities


Copyright 2002- Social Knowledge, LLC All Rights Reserved.

All times are GMT -5. The time now is 01:47 PM.


Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.8 Beta 4
Copyright ©2000 - 2016, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.