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Old 12-24-2011, 08:40 AM   #11
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I know this year is not a good one for me. My thoughts are with you, babe. Christmas was always such a celebration for my family.

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Old 12-24-2011, 01:35 PM   #12
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Come Share Christmas with me.........Its always a Hoot HERE ;) Hugs and Love and I will say a Prayer for you Dear..........

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Old 12-24-2011, 02:11 PM   #13
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thank you all for the good thoughts. p.s.t.d has it's own way of making the grief intrusive. i have seen lots of shrinks and counselers. i am not saying it is the same as it was, it is not. i am on three drugs for the pstd. this feeling is seasonal and probably always will be. i don't bring it up at gatherings anymore. no one has a clue, where i am in this sad journey. del was my soul mate, the love of my life. his death left a large hole in my life.
i will enjoy the great grandchildren. my granddaughter has planned what sounds like much fun. going to a christmas eve party. my, daughter and two of my granddaughters will be there. i am looking forward to it.

again thanks and all my love, merry christmas to all.
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Old 12-24-2011, 07:30 PM   #14
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Merry Christmas Babe. God bless you. Holes left in our hearts by loved ones passed are hard to fill, it must be unbearable when the loss is so horrific. Christmas time can be a depressing time for all of us. The only thing that seems to help is having children around. You are so blessed to have those wonderful great grand children in your life. May they bring you comfort at this difficult time.
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Old 12-24-2011, 08:50 PM   #15
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We all have our own griefs and at various times, but the holidays seems to amplify things.
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Old 12-24-2011, 09:01 PM   #16
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We all have our own griefs and at various times, but the holidays seems to amplify things.
I think this is because we tend to think "everyone else" is having the time of their lives, when in fact, for easily half the people I've known in my life, the holidays bring on depression rather than joy. There are many reasons for the depression, but often it has to do with thinking you aren't measuring up. I should be over this. I should have bought better presents. I should have a better job. I should..... Well, guess what? The people who supposedly have all that cr*p aren't really happy. They're just looking for more cr*p that they can't afford. Simplify is often it for people.
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Old 12-25-2011, 08:46 AM   #17
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I used to be a christmas fanatic. I don't know what has happened over the last few years but I start to dread it now. I just go through the motions trying to make others holiday nice. If my mom didn't come to visit and family wasn't coming to our house, I wouldn't even bother to decorate. I actually hated the whole experience of putting up the tree. I just think of how much money we could save just ignoring the whole thing.

This is the first year without my dad, and that just compounds the problem. If I didn't have a big vacation to look forward to next month, I don't know how I would deal with this holiday.

Yesterday we traveled to my sister's lake house, had a lot of fun, and great food. On the long drive home, there were lots of christmas light displays and we had christmas music playing in the car, and yet my christmas spirit still wasn't sparked, I give up!
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Old 12-25-2011, 10:08 AM   #18
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One year I told my sister I was going to my daughter's and told my daughter that I was going to my sister's houe. so I stayed home, slept in and had a quiet day. I did it again the next year. But I got caught when my sister called my daughter and asked for me.

Little by little I did away with Christmas. My youngest was growing up and wanted to spend the holiday with his friends. Fine with me. Less work. Then my daughter died. I wanted to give her children a Christmas they wouldn't forget. After all Christmas is for small kids. So the day after Thanksgiving I put the tree up with the lights.

All my decorations were wooden and child safe. All the grandchilden (10 of them at that time) would come and decorate the tree. You could tell who decorated what part. It was not the prettiest tree in town, but it was their tree. Then each child got a half of the Pillsbury cookie Christmas roll and they went into the oven. While they were baking there was a craft for them to do. The older kids helped the little ones. Next it was time for them to eat their cookies with a cup of cocoa. By then I was exhausted. Time for the kids to go home. The tree stayed like it was. The little ones thought it was the most beautiful tree in the world because they helped decorate it.

I did this for three years. Then my health started on its downhill slide. The children still remember it, and when I was getting rid of my decorations, they each picked a favorite one for their tree. My daughter's five children one year picked a large wooden star and glued a picture of their mother on it. Needless to say, they still hang it on their own trees now. I gave all of my grandchildren Christmas. I know that someday they will become jaded like the rest of us. But they have a memory that will not fade.
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Old 12-25-2011, 10:39 AM   #19
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Every year my Christmas gets smaller and smaller but, I still celebrate!

Sometimes when I am getting ready I feel like I am getting ready for a doll's tea party. (Think Mad Hatter! )

I enjoy my little celebrations and I enjoy my memories of the many Christmas times that have passed.

The flame still burns bright!

Ya gotta believe!

So when ya feel yer elastic letting go hitch up yer panties and grab a safety pin, it's Christmas!

Have a great day everybody!
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Old 12-25-2011, 10:48 AM   #20
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Originally Posted by Aunt Bea View Post

So when ya feel yer elastic letting go hitch up yer panties and grab a safety pin, it's Christmas!

I'm not quite sure what that means, but I like it.

May you live as long as you wish and love as long as you live.
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