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Old 07-12-2006, 08:15 AM   #1
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Does Anybody Else Have A Spouse Who Doesn't Drink

And doesn't like it when you drink? Man I freaking HATE that!!! I don't get drunk...EVER. But I love a couple of beers and a glass of Scotch on Sunday evening. The wife (whom I love dearly) will come down and see me drinking and give me "the look". SON OF A BUCK!!!!! I'm just having a couple beers!!!!



And a glass of Scotch!!!!



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Old 07-12-2006, 08:42 AM   #2
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Well so long as the whisky was a good single malt...
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Old 07-12-2006, 09:04 AM   #3
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Drink a few beers everyday that way she will get used to it and it won't shock her system.

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Old 07-12-2006, 09:19 AM   #4
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Are you the type to get mean or just an a$$ when you drink? A lot of people don't have to drink a lot to be this way or like to paw at your wife and she doesn't care to smell the beer or scotch on your breath. Could be that you don't realize it.
I hated the smell of liquor on dh's breath. And he was a mean drinker. He was okay if it was just beer, but, add some liquor and he was hateful and just downright mean!! When I smelled it, I dreaded the evening!!
I'm not saying that you are that way, just giving you a look from the other side of it. Now, dh can't drink. I will drink a glass of wine each night, if I have the money, but, that's it, unless, there is a party, then, I still watch because of meds, but, it doesn't bother him. So, why don't you ask your wife why it bothers her. Your not out driving and acting crazy. Maybe she will tell you what bothers her about it.
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Old 07-12-2006, 10:10 AM   #5
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Are you the type to get mean or just an a$$ when you drink? A lot of people don't have to drink a lot to be this way or like to paw at your wife and she doesn't care to smell the beer or scotch on your breath. Could be that you don't realize it.
I hated the smell of liquor on dh's breath. And he was a mean drinker. He was okay if it was just beer, but, add some liquor and he was hateful and just downright mean!! When I smelled it, I dreaded the evening!!
I'm not saying that you are that way, just giving you a look from the other side of it. Now, dh can't drink. I will drink a glass of wine each night, if I have the money, but, that's it, unless, there is a party, then, I still watch because of meds, but, it doesn't bother him. So, why don't you ask your wife why it bothers her. Your not out driving and acting crazy. Maybe she will tell you what bothers her about it.
I'm never mean, and I'm never "drunk". I may have a bit of a buzz but that's it. She feels as though I have an addictive personality and fears that I will overdo it, but I have shown her over the last year that I don't abuse it. I don't paw her, I don't get obnoxious, and as a matter of fact prefer to sit by myself in my comfy chair. I would have a glass of Scotch every night if it didn't upset her. Not half a bottle, but about two shots worth. I don't usually sit down for the evening until about 9:30. I'd love to sit and have a glass of Scotch while unwinding from the day, but out of respect for her, I limit it. I suppose I'll just have to deal with it and she'll have to deal with it too.

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Old 07-12-2006, 10:21 AM   #6
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Moderation in everything!

I drink about 5 or 6 six-packs of beer a year. The only reason I even buy any is to cook with it, but I usually only need one, so I'll drink the rest, one a day, until they're gone. Of course, PeppA, my DW, can't stand the smell of beer on my breath.

Does your wife have (or had?) an alcoholic relative? My grandfather was an alcoholic, and it ended up killing him. My grandmother has been on a mission to preach the evils of alcohol all her life. My father never touched the stuff.
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Old 07-12-2006, 10:34 AM   #7
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Does she disapprove of alcohol in general? Perhaps she has religious reasons?
Or is she just trying to control you?

Life is too short not to enjoy every moment you can. Have your beer and mix her up a Pink Lady. Maybe she'll loosen up a little.
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How long have you guys been together? I suspect that she had previous unhappy experience(s) with someone, either partner or family member who had a nasty habit with alcohol.

I think you should get down to the root of her "phobia", to understand what really bothers her. I hope she will come to the realisation it is okay to enjoy a little alcoholic beverage in moderation. I always hated people getting intoxicated (which my exes did on occasion), fortunately now I am with Cristiano, who enjoy a glass or two of beer or wine with meals sometimes, just the way I enjoy them.
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Old 07-12-2006, 10:59 AM   #9
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I've just spotted your other post on collecting Scotch. Is it possibly because she can think of other ways to spend the money rather than collecting very nice whiskies?
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I'm never mean, and I'm never "drunk". I may have a bit of a buzz but that's it. She feels as though I have an addictive personality and fears that I will overdo it, but I have shown her over the last year that I don't abuse it. I don't paw her, I don't get obnoxious, and as a matter of fact prefer to sit by myself in my comfy chair. I would have a glass of Scotch every night if it didn't upset her. Not half a bottle, but about two shots worth. I don't usually sit down for the evening until about 9:30. I'd love to sit and have a glass of Scotch while unwinding from the day, but out of respect for her, I limit it. I suppose I'll just have to deal with it and she'll have to deal with it too.

Well, good luck. You need to just ask her why she is so against it. You might find that she has a reason, whether you understand it or not, and just tell her that seeing that your not out of control with it, shows that you just drink to relax, not to get drunk. Hope it works out for you.
I have a glass of wine each night, when I can afford it, so, I know what your saying about winding down from the day to relax, even for a few minutes.
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