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Old 03-10-2015, 02:21 PM   #1
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Question Etiquette question

I was listening to the radio on the way to work and they were discussing, well just started to discuss, how the host was in a restaurant with a group of people and waiter interjected himself into their conversation, well made some kind of comments about the topic they were discussing. The host was pretty mad about it.

My question is what do you think about it? You are in a restaurant and your waiter starts commenting on conversation you are having, what would you do, how would you react? Just give me your opinion.

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Old 03-10-2015, 03:02 PM   #2
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I think it all depends on the context of the conversation. I may welcome the waiter or even guests from the next table interjecting, with permission.....it all depends on what we're talking about.
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Old 03-10-2015, 03:31 PM   #3
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I wouldn't like that either. The waiter is not an invited guest at my table and he was out of line in my opinion. The conversation at my table should be private. I'm not sure if I would make a scene about it, but I sure wouldn't like it, and the management would hear about how inappropriate his waiter was.
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Old 03-10-2015, 03:45 PM   #4
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Eh, unless it's a very personal topic, so what? I may even have my elbows on the table.
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Old 03-10-2015, 03:47 PM   #5
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Good servers know not to do this. Unless you are a regular and have developed some kind of relationship.

And yes it annoys me when they do it.
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Old 03-10-2015, 04:01 PM   #6
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It also depends on the type of eating establishment. If it's a very casual place and the waiter is very friendly and attentive, I wouldn't mind.
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Old 03-10-2015, 05:13 PM   #7
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If a server commented on what he or she had heard at our table, I'd be uncomfortable with it.
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Old 03-10-2015, 05:20 PM   #8
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With me it could go either way, very quickly!

I have had some great conversations with "chatty" waitstaff, in paper place mat type restaurants, that were very helpful to me.

It really depends on the time and the place. In general I would say that it is not a good idea, unless someone at the table initiates the conversation with the server.
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Old 03-10-2015, 05:30 PM   #9
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I can't say I've ever had that happen, so I don't know how I would respond. I do think I'd be a little peeved to think that they were eavesdropping on a private conversation, and it would be no different if someone at the next table did the same.

That said, I have started up conversations with waiters on a number of occasions and asked for their opinions on various things. So in that context, I would probably be okay with it.
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I was listening to the radio on the way to work and they were discussing, well just started to discuss, how the host was in a restaurant with a group of people and waiter interjected himself into their conversation, well made some kind of comments about the topic they were discussing. The host was pretty mad about it.

My question is what do you think about it? You are in a restaurant and your waiter starts commenting on conversation you are having, what would you do, how would you react? Just give me your opinion.
The waiter was not invited into the conversation. That's just not acceptable, no matter what kind of a restaurant it was.
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