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Old 06-07-2008, 06:06 PM   #1
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Etiquette Questions and Stories

I just thought this might be a good place to address these. So many young people now have been raised that etiquette simply does not matter, it is something for snobs. In fact, good manners are what enable us to live in close proximity to each other without breaking out in constant fights. What are your questions? What are your experiences? Pet peeves? What are those embarassing moments when you didn't know what to do, when, or where. Please remember to include your location if it isn't in your tag line, or if you were travelling, because what is acceptable at one place isn't in another.

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Old 06-07-2008, 07:04 PM   #2
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it really ticks me off that people don't send thank you cards anymore.

my son and daughter were raised to do so, but they don't.

none of my grand children do either.

how long really does it take to write a thank you card? mention how u are using gift and saying thanks. not so hard.


and the biggest one of all, not being on time. it says hey you don't matter.


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Old 06-07-2008, 07:44 PM   #3
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What is strange is that we just had a big party for my son. He sent back thank you cards. And the people i work with seemed to be so surprised and happy that they received one. They said " oh, he didnt have to send me a thank you card". BUt I informed them that it was the right thing to do. What we also did, is instead of saying " thank you for the generous gift ...." We had him say something more along the lines of " thanks for sharing this special day with me, I t meant a lot that u were there......". I didnt want him to think it was all about the gift.
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Old 06-07-2008, 10:02 PM   #4
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I, too, am a thank you note stickler. Our children were taught to acknowledge all gifts. In the notes they had to make some comment on the gift itself, not just "thanks for the gift." More like "thank you for the beautiful scarf." They were never allowed to send "generic" thank yous. They had to be specific to the person and gift.

To this day, I have a packet of thank you notes in my desk drawer to use whenever anyone is kind enough to do something nice for me or give me a gift.
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Old 06-07-2008, 10:11 PM   #5
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Do you in your location consider it poor etiquette to talk LOUDLY in a restaurant???? I do!!! I cannot fathom listening to a bunch of loud mouths two tables over talk like they are the only people in the place...!!!!!
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Old 06-07-2008, 10:29 PM   #6
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Do you in your location consider it poor etiquette to talk LOUDLY in a restaurant???? I do!!! I cannot fathom listening to a bunch of loud mouths two tables over talk like they are the only people in the place...!!!!!
That and screaming kids! I love kids but so many times the kids will be screaming and the parents just ignore them. When my kids were young they learned how to behave in a restaurant. If for some reason, they would act up, we would apologize to the people around us, get to go boxes and leave. There is so much of this attitude where "no one matters but ME" in the world today.
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Old 06-07-2008, 10:36 PM   #7
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There is so much of this attitude where "no one matters but ME" in the world today.
I call them the "Me Generation"
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Old 06-08-2008, 12:29 AM   #8
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I definitely agree about screaming children. It seems that some people bring their kids out just so that they can go wild. I feel uncomfortable when my baby makes too much noise and take her outside until she calms down. Some people say I should not do that, and that it doesn't matter, but I think it does. Many people are not okay with a loud child during their meal, and they shouldn't have to be okay with it.
I don't mind loud children, as long as the parents ask them to settle down in a timely manner, and explain that it's not okay in certain places.
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I call them the "Me Generation"
I do too, but I be a pirate...and Roger Daltrey.

Faux pas don't bother me so much as outright rudeness. Some stuff like using the right fork and whatnot is meaningless to me whereas talking loudly at restaurants or during movies (I make an exception when it's a bad movie and I'm mocking it) just makes me want smack people with a canoe paddle. I rarely have a canoe paddle on me, so that means people are usually pretty safe and nobody wants to go canoing with me.

Also neighbors with noisy dogs. I realize not everyone sleeps during the day, but enough is enough. Silence your animal or keep it inside.
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Old 06-08-2008, 09:12 AM   #10
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we were once at a restaurant. The tables were so close that u can actually reach over and touch the person on the table next to u. Anyway, my wife and i were eating, minding our own business. At the table next to us was an older couple. The husband was sitting there reading a news paper, but a large one like the NY Times, and he was holding it upright, so you could not even see his face. And the wife was just sitting there looking around. We ( my table ) was served first, and all of a sudden, the woman from the table next to me reaches over, points to my plate ( finger about 3 inches from the plate ) and says, " oh, what is that, It looks really good". Now, just because her husband is ignoring her, I dont feel she has the right to put her dirty paws in my plate, invade my personal space, and start up a conversation. It was bizarre.
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