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Old 03-10-2008, 09:44 AM   #31
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Originally Posted by jpmcgrew View Post
I dont think I'm a food snob especially if they are really trying. If they want advice I'm happy to give it to them. What I really dislike is someone who really can't cook or grill and yet think they are the greatests cooks in the world so hard to watch and keep my mouth shut as they don't think you might know a better way.
Just last weekend a friend flew in from California to spend 3 days learning Northern New Mexican ( and to visit with DH) he was totally into it. I don't use recipes so I taught him how each dish tasted from beginning to end and how how to flavor as we go to get it just right. He learned how to make Carne Adovada, Posole, Red and Green Chili, Beans, Tostadas, Burritos, Enchiladas and Sopaipillas. I also explained all the variations you can make with each dish. He wants to come back this summer to learn more. Made me feel really good someone really wanted to learn and actually soaked it all in.
I make a pretty good carne Asada, and good chili, both green and red. Beans, Tostadas, Burritos, and Enchiladas are also things I make. But I have never had teh opportunity to try Sopaipillas, Posole, or Carne Advovada. Care to share? And even with the things I can make, I'm eager to learn new recipes for the same. Maybe we can do a recipe swap. I can make almost anything I set my mind to. from pastries, pies, cakes, and deserts of all kinds, to tempura chicken balls, to Phillipino Lumpia. Let me know what you want to learn.

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Old 03-10-2008, 11:14 AM   #32
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Most of my friends can cook great, and know I'm not the greatest cook, so when I invite them for dinner I usually give them a choice of the stuff I can cook and if they say whatever is fine, I always tell them they don't know what they are getting into when they say that. I always make the joke first so people never expect a gourmet meal.

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Old 03-10-2008, 11:15 AM   #33
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I am a very good cook, but I still rely on jarred or boxed things sometimes to make life easier for me. It used to be because I was busy, and now it's because I'm crippled up.
Anyway, One night, when I had a "friend" and her daughter over for dinner, I pulled out a box of au gratin potatoes, and she laughed and ridiculed me until I finally told her that if she didn't like it, she could just go home.
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Old 03-10-2008, 11:46 AM   #34
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Most of the time no one would know the difference unless they saw you open the boxes or jars. I add stuff to everything so it never tastes like it's boxed.
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Old 03-10-2008, 12:12 PM   #35
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...Anyway, One night, when I had a "friend" and her daughter over for dinner, I pulled out a box of au gratin potatoes, and she laughed and ridiculed me until I finally told her that if she didn't like it, she could just go home.
Good for you!!! She should have been ashamed of herself.

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Old 03-10-2008, 12:23 PM   #36
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For 30 years Buck and I lived in and around Washington, D.C. There was no end of good restaurants and we were surrounded by neighbors and friends who were wonderful cooks.

One of our long-time next door neighbors was one of the most accomplished cooks I have ever met. She was like having a culinary school right in my lap. I learned volumes from her and still have stacks and stacks of recipes she gave me. She inspired me to be adventuresome in my cooking and, as a result, there's very little I won't attempt in the kitchen. I have had my share of flubs, which can be directly traced to my "thinking" I knew what I was doing when I was preparing the dish. Fewer boo-boos now with experience. I've been cooking for over 40 years. I'd better have learned something after that much time.

We left D.C. 14 years ago and moved to a very rural part of western Kentucky. There are a lot of really good cooks here, too. However, they are simply "basic" country cooks who stick mainly to tried-and-true recipes. Very little adventure in their cooking and they seldom stray from what they've always cooked.

I've met ladies here who wouldn't think of adding ripe olives to a dish and think authentic Tex-Mex food comes from Taco Bell. The offspring of these ladies more often than not don't cook anything. More likely it's something boxed out of the freezer section of the market, take-out or going to mom's to see what she's having.

Don't misunderstand, I truly enjoy the food that is served here, but I can only take deep-fried "X" so many times or something slathered with cream gravy. These are all delicious, but in small doses for Buck and me and we're certainly not going to breate these cooks for their style. It is what they know and are comfortable with.

We live in the land of the potluck, which could also be called "here's my best dish" meal. These functions are always filled with THE best dishes of all the presenters. I love them and when I am asked to bring a dish, I try to introduce something a little different and have always been well-received. One of the reasons I do this is that I'm not a country cook and couldn't in my wildest dreams compete with any of those here.

I love to cook and share recipes and any help/knowledge with anyone who asks, but I won't push or force anything on anyone.

There is, we've discovered, a group of folks who will "play" in the kitchen like Buck and I do and we have a blast when we get together to cook together. We have a lot of fun trying/tasting new things and learning what is "icky" and what is yummy.

Well, I've gone on but I want to add/endorse something others have stated. Regardless of what is served, when invited to a friend's home for a meal, I primarily go for the fellowship. The food is secondary, be it tasty or mediocre.

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Old 03-10-2008, 12:55 PM   #37
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company for dinner

i have found that while people are eager to come to my house for a meal. by and large they don't invite me for dinner. i do have a granddaughter that tries to have people over. while she is cooking she asks me many questions,. mostly just basics that i take for granted. she wants to learn.

my son only does the bbq bit. he keeps it very simple. he cooks meat but all side dishes are store bought. it works for him. my daughter is a fair everyday cook. but never uses seasoning.

they really don't want to learn anymore than they already know. oh well guess i am a snob sometimes but try not to say anything mean.

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Old 03-10-2008, 01:06 PM   #38
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I am always thrilled to be invited over for dinner, does not happen to much in my life, so I always value the opportunity. If they can cook or not is just icing on the cake to me. If they can cook, great for me, great company, great food. If they can't cook, no biggie, great company, and I get to go home and eat that chocolate cake that I have been saving!!!!
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Old 03-10-2008, 01:14 PM   #39
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I debated whether to respond to this or not...but, it is a discussion board, and we are discussing...so..

Let me preface with saying I'm not judging how you feel.. You feel how you feel, plain and simple. What I find hard to swallow is that you sound displeased that your friends, who simply want to entertain you, are serving you out of a box or the microwave. Regardless of what is being served or offered, how can you have such disdain for friends? How can you be anything less than gracious and complimentary towards their generosity? Kitchen skill and disposable income vary from person to person, and couple to couple. Most people give from the heart in good faith. The post, in general, disturbs me because you seem to feel you should be better entertained.

You always have the option of not accepting their invitations.

I don't know that being a snob is a good way to describe your behaviour. Certainly, no, to answer your question, have I ever done that.
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Old 03-10-2008, 01:56 PM   #40
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I see nothing wrong with acknowledging you can cook better than a friend or family member. That's not being a snob, just an observation. I didn't catch anyone letting their friends know how they felt. They are just venting here.

We all still accept invitations and have a great time with these folks, we just don't enjoy the food. That's not to say we don't enjoy their company and appreciate the invitation.

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