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I followed a break up of my neighbors on FB a while back. I was shocked to see it playing out for all to see. I couldn't believe what they were posting about each other. As sad as it was, I checked in everyday to check the status. Like a train wreck. Morbid fascination....
 
Speaking of which, would somebody post here how I can make my email address on Discuss Cooking invisible to the public.

Go to your profile and select the "profile privacy" section.

http://www.discusscooking.com/forums/profile.php?do=privacy

Go to the "profile privacy" section and change the setting for "contact info" to "your contacts." (There should be a "nobody" choice but there isn't.) Click save. (And then don't add anybody to your contact list. I don't use that feature.)

Additionally you can control who can send you an email through the forum. Go to your profile and select the "edit options" section.

http://www.discusscooking.com/forums/profile.php?do=editoptions

Scroll down to "messaging & notification" and clear the check next to "receive email from other members." Click "save changes."

Thanks for the reminder. I hadn't wanted my email address visible to anybody but apparently the default shows for any member logged in. (People not logged in cannot see this information, i.e. guests.)
 
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Go post on the Discuss Cooking FB page! I'd love to see some new posts over there



I keep up with family and friends and play games too Andy. I'm of much the same opinion as you seem to be. Use your brain and don't post too much stuff about yourself. My permissions are intentionally set very high because of the population I work with. There have been many attempts by the kids I work with to "find" me on FB and guess what? They can't get in to my FB account, but they can find me on DC quite easily. Oops.

All of you who think you are so security conscious and feel that FB is too loosey goosey might want to rethink that a bit. Go over all your posts and see how much you've actually shared on here. I could find most of you pretty easily with some basic searching. (Not to scare you, but just to point this out)

You have info open to the public on here on your profile, but assuming you dont mind having anyone see your e mail addy?
 
You have info open to the public on here on your profile, but assuming you dont mind having anyone see your e mail addy?

Can you see my email addy? I haven't looked recently, but I have had my setting on PM only for years. Unless the software on the site changed and I missed something you shouldn't be able to email me.
 
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I've seen people post photos of their passport, with their full name and passport number on it for people all over the world to see, on the travel site I am a member of.

I have heard of people posting both the front and back of their debit card, thus giving full card number and verification code. I think this was part of some sort of scam, so that a confederate could take out money and then the cardholder contacts their bank and claims it wasn't them and wasn't authorized so the bank refunds the money. (This was in the news. I don't recall when or where.)

I've also heard of people posting pictures of them posing with weapons, consuming drugs, or having sex. (That would be a real trifecta if they were having sex while smoking pot and holding an assault rifle.) ;)

It is not unusual at all for employers to check out a prospective employee's FB page (if they can find it, which probably isn't very hard). How likely is somebody to get the job if their employer's personnel department finds pictures of the prospective employee posing obviously drunk, holding an assault weapon, smoking pot or having sex? I'd say about zero.

Better watch those privacy settings! One company was in the news because they started to require employees to give them the employee's FB password. (There was a lawsuit and the company lost.)

This FB stuff is pretty evil in my opinion, at least to anybody who values their privacy. I know you can adjust your privacy settings but FB keeps adding and changing features and if you're not paying attention you might end up sharing something you didn't want to share. Also there's compromises of FB's system where everybody's info is leaked, and there's also the possibility that your password (or everybody's passwords) might be cracked.

My best advice is either don't join FB or otherwise just don't post anything you don't want to share with the whole Internet. Live by the assumption that eventually everybody may see your details/pictures even if you have your settings adjusted otherwise.
 
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The alternative is behaving like a rational civilized human being and not DOING stupid crap that will embarrass you later. Seriously now, do you really think FB is less secure than DC? ANYTHING personal you post ANYWHERE on the internet can be used to find you and exploit you. Being anal about one particular site because it is extremely popular is ludicrous. If you want to be safe on the internet you need to take precautions anywhere you go. You also need a healthy dose of reality and think "caveat emptor". You read labels at the grocery store to make you an informed consumer, you should do the same with any internet site you attend and use. Its all about using your brain and not being swayed by popular opinion. And by swayed, I mean in either direction. There are lots of people who tout the same tired phrases about FB's lack of security just to be different (not saying that is you GWC, I have a couple of friends in that boat) and yet they post all kinds of crap about themselves in other places. I simply do not see the logic.
 
Can you see my email addy? I haven't looked recently, but I have had my setting on PM only for years. Unless the software on the site changed and I missed something you shouldn't be able to email me.

No sorry Alix, my mistake, it was a website. You can see links to your family pix though. Thats the bit I dont like about open forums - your family photos are up there for anyone to see if thats what you choose to put on the site. I do appreciate what you are saying though and it does us good to have a kick up the bottom to check our settings.

Greg - most of us who use Facebook regularly do check those privacy settings - so all of this employer can see business just wouldnt happen. I would not give any employer my password either, that is just not enforceable. Thats an invasion of privacy.

If however you are daft enough not to check those settings then thats your own lookout. :)
 
No sorry Alix, my mistake, it was a website. You can see links to your family pix though. Thats the bit I dont like about open forums - your family photos are up there for anyone to see if thats what you choose to put on the site. I do appreciate what you are saying though and it does us good to have a kick up the bottom to check our settings.

Greg - most of us who use Facebook regularly do check those privacy settings - so all of this employer can see business just wouldnt happen. I would not give any employer my password either, that is just not enforceable. Thats an invasion of privacy.

If however you are daft enough not to check those settings then thats your own lookout. :)

Yep, well aware of the photo bit. Not as worried about that as I am about unsolicited contact. Thanks for checking the email thing for me. You had me worried there for a moment. My email for here and for FB are different though.
 
The alternative is behaving like a rational civilized human being and not DOING stupid crap that will embarrass you later. Seriously now, do you really think FB is less secure than DC? ANYTHING personal you post ANYWHERE on the internet can be used to find you and exploit you. ...

That reminds me of another aspect of the FB picture sharing, particularly those who think it's cool to post pictures of them posing with weapons, while having sex, consuming drugs, drunk at a party, to share with their BFFs. They may think they're best friends forever, but friendships sometimes die, people have a falling out, forever turned out to not be forever. Maybe your BFF even turned into an enemy... And maybe they downloaded the pictures you intended to share with them alone.

What is to prevent that BFF turned enemy from posting your private pictures on FB or somewhere else on the Internet, or emailing them to your employer?

The best thing to do is not engage in such stupid crap. Second best thing is at least don't take pictures or let them be taken. A distant third choice is to keep the pictures to yourself and never let a copy out of your possession.* Finally, it's unthinkable to post that on FB or anywhere on the Internet.

Once anything is on the Internet it's going to be there forever.


* There have been cases where couples enjoyed taking pictures of them engaging in sex and then just shared them between only the two. And then one day they break up or get divorced and end up hating each other. It has happened that sometimes one partner posts the pictures on the Internet to be vindictive.
 
Greg - most of us who use Facebook regularly do check those privacy settings - so all of this employer can see business just wouldnt happen. I would not give any employer my password either, that is just not enforceable. Thats an invasion of privacy.

I'm sure you check frequently, but I've also heard in the news when FB changed something or altered their TOS or even made a programming mistake with unintended consequences including breach of privacy. I don't recall the specifics, I'm not on FB, so I follow the stories just as cautionary tales.

As I said, the employer who required the employee's FB password lost the case. They may have had to pay damages. With that is a precedent no employer is going to be so stupid as to try that again.


My email for here and for FB are different though.

I use a different email at every website, different password, and even different member name. (Not that I'm a member of very many forums, maybe 3-4.) There's no point in letting anybody combine data from separate sources to leverage their knowledge about you and use it for nefarious purposes.
 
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Regarding photos of people engaging in sex, anything pornographic gets removed by the facebook moderating staff. And yes, apparently they do have a staff that monitors that type of activity. I know people who have even had cartoons removed that were too suggestive in nature.

Regardless, it still comes back to being smart about what you post, though.
 
It is true, they do remove "inappropriate" things. A guy I know always posted sexual pictures (cartoons) to his wife and they gave him a warning about that. (which he posted about after the fact :LOL:)

In regards to work/ FB they can and do check your FB profile. I personally know of one girl who was fired from my company. Three other girls ultimately quit but was in trouble over things they wrote about their co- workers/ the company.
 
I would have no problem with a prospective boss seeing my Facebook page, but I would have a problem with them wanting my password. I'm glad to see that company lost the suit about that.

Whenever I post anything on Facebook (which is about every 3 seconds, LOL), I keep in mind that my grandchildren, other children, friends from church, husband, and friends may see whatever I have posted. That is how I try to live my life in public anyway, so Facebook is no different. If I wouldn't say something out on the street in front of people, I would not say it on Facebook.

I do have friends who sometimes post mean things about their husbands or wives when they are mad, but I keep stuff like that just between James and me. For one thing, it is no one else's business, and when it is put out where everyone can see it, it can grow into something really ugly. Also, James is looking for work, and it wouldn't help matters any if a prospective employer found hateful posts about James from his own wife!

A lot of young people (and some older) are learning the hard way that they have to watch what they put out there for the world to see. It is a new age, not like it was when I was young and there were no Internet or cell phones.
 
What Barbara said +1!

"If you can't say nothin' nice, don't say nothin' at all"

There is stuff I'm willing to say to someone's face that I wouldn't write. Face to face misunderstandings can be straightened out right away. Stuff you write can come back to haunt you.
 
while it's a nice idea and works pretty well in general, having only nice things to say is disingenuous. there comes a point where everyone blowing sunshine up your skirt is sickening. quintessentially so. :innocent:

lollllloooooooo
 
while it's a nice idea and works pretty well in general, having only nice things to say is disingenuous. there comes a point where everyone blowing sunshine up your skirt is sickening. quintessentially so. :innocent:

lollllloooooooo
+1

But it's a balancing act.
 
I am finding that it is one more infringement on my freedom and privacy. Sometimes if people message you they expect something back reguardless of the topic. If you haven't gotten around to it, or haven't figured out a response, or just plain don't want to, you have some explaining to do because they can tell if you have been on or not. Just like cell phones. Loss of freedom. I no likey. I have been toying with dropping facebook for that reason. But, I also use it for messaging my kids and I do have some friends on there that I do enjoy talking to and reading about...
 
Just like cell phones. Loss of freedom. I no likey.

I've had that problem too. I don't want to interrupt somebody's dinner in a restaurant or some meeting or something. Used to be, you call their home phone number, the answering machine would do its job, if they were home and didn't mind being interrupted they could pick up.

These days somehow people seem to have the expectation they must answer, leaving me in the situation of having to apologize for interrupting them.

Cellphones should have an answering function that you can listen to the message and then pick up if it's important.
 
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