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Old 11-02-2017, 04:44 PM   #11
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I'm not sure what the last stages look like. She sometimes recognizes her family members and sometimes doesn't (my FIL visits her twice a day at lunch and dinner). She can't speak very well and is confined to a wheelchair. So it's hard for me to know.
Unfortunately, the last stages don't look any different. It's more about what they have lost in short term memory, recognition and daily living skills. Most of my dementia patients are the healthiest elders you have ever seen.

My remark was a generalization about how some patients see fidget quilts. I stand firmly behind the use of them, but don't feel like it's inappropriate if your MIL does not like it at first. She just may not be ready at her current mental status for it, she will like it later. I would suggest washing it first and sprinkling with your FIL's aftershave. Unless, of course, you can get him to sleep with it until his scent is on it. Smell memory is very strong.
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Old 11-02-2017, 05:17 PM   #12
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Thanks, PF. I'll suggest that and let my FIL decide what to do based on how she reacts. I appreciate your insights
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Old 11-03-2017, 12:09 AM   #13
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Thanks, PF. I'll suggest that and let my FIL decide what to do based on how she reacts. I appreciate your insights
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Old 11-06-2017, 07:35 AM   #14
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Fidget Quilts - some folks like them, others think they are being treated as a child. May need to wait until last stages of Dementia/Alzheimer's for them to be effective. Some residents are happy holding baby dolls.
Bahaha! "I'm not TWO!!!" is the response I have gotten from my Mom. And she is not two, but she lets me know when I try to engage her using children toys, etc. Bit tired, with all the snow and deer hunting, caregivers have called and not shown up. A hard day for me, nice day for Mom.
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Old 11-06-2017, 07:58 AM   #15
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Sorry about that, CWS. My MIL is no longer verbal, and she seems depressed to her family, so I'm hoping her response will be more positive.
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There are good days and bad days, and then there are some horribly bad days. My Mom is much better one-on-one. My biggest problem is my Dad. He has a really hard time accepting Mom in the here and now. Music seems to really work with my Mom. She'll tap her feet and sing along, or whistle.i do know that when her routine is interrupted, e.g
, I am gone, she gets really agitated. I talk to her all the time, even if she doesn't talk back. I buy her new clothes whenever I can. It is really important to me that she is dressed nicely. She was always a classy lady. My Mom is "in there." I don't let my Dad or caregivers talk as if she can't understand, she can, forming sentences are hard because of the dementia and the stroke. Try the fidget blanket. You don't know until you try. Oh, if anyone has a copy of the manual of how to navigate along this journey, mine got lost in the mail. Could really use a copy, LOL.
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I was re-thinking what I wrote earlier about my Mom's Parkinson's. I don't think a fidget quilt would have helped her shaking, as she just needed something to grasp. In her case, she used her purse predominately. Now I think a nice throw quilt with different textures like a patchwork quilt might have been nice. Some squares silky, some velvety, maybe some squares cut from one of my dad's old wool suits, she refused to let those go. And one can pick up silk ties at garage sales. While my mom didn't have memory loss, I think the familiar woulda/ mighta been a comfort as well.
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I was re-thinking what I wrote earlier about my Mom's Parkinson's. I don't think a fidget quilt would have helped her shaking, as she just needed something to grasp. In her case, she used her purse predominately. Now I think a nice throw quilt with different textures like a patchwork quilt might have been nice. Some squares silky, some velvety, maybe some squares cut from one of my dad's old wool suits, she refused to let those go. And one can pick up silk ties at garage sales. While my mom didn't have memory loss, I think the familiar woulda/ mighta been a comfort as well.
I think so, too.
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Sharing these stories of what goes right and what goes wrong is very helpful. Even what you think may have worked better in hindsight. Dementia patients are all different and they change frequently. CWS, I too wish there was a Manual.
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Oh, PF, thought you might have gotten a copy. The manuals didn't get.
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