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Old 09-20-2014, 08:22 PM   #1
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For whom the cook toils

my wife and i are very different cooks. while i'd say we both are foodies and have a fairly equal passion for food, what we cook tends to run in very different directions.

my wife is all about healthy cooking. healthy and plain.
plain, plain, healthy, and plain.

the only spices she uses are salt and pepper, and only a few dishes get some herbs if necessary like parsley or garlic.

she almost never cooks red meat, or adds fat or a fatty or cholesterol laden ingredient to anything. lots of chicken (plainly grilled, skin off, or roasted, with nothing but s&p) and fish. plainly broiled. on a very rare occasion breaded and fried in very little evoo.

it all tastes ok, but boy is it boring after so many years. i've tried to get her to cook things that i like, but i'm lucky if that happens once or twice a year.


now on the other hand, i cook to please both myself and my family. i've learned to make things healthier (or figure on eating all of it myself), but i find it very frustrating to love to cook all sorts of things and not be able to do so with any frequency.

my son mentioned to my wife recently that she needs to expand her culinary horizons like i do and make some new things, or at least make the things she cooks more interesting.

it got me to wondering how many other people here cook for themselves, or better said for their own tastes and reasons while turning a deaf ear to their family's requests, or do they cook what their family (spouse, so, kids, what have you) likes. do you mix it up, meaning one for you, one for them? is it all about one family member for health reasons? do you cook and whomever doesn't like it fends for themselves? do you just cook what they like and spite yourself?

i remember my mom making certain dishes 2 or 3 different ways in order to please all of my sisters, my brother, and my dad. but then she is a miracle worker with food.

so, for whom do you toil?

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Old 09-20-2014, 08:46 PM   #2
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I guess I've been very lucky throughout my life, as both my husbands have loved my cooking, and both of my kids did too. I've always been the primary cook, and I must say that I cook what tastes good to me as I just can't imagine cooking any other way.
For example, I don't like the flavors of Indian cuisine and if Steve did, he'd have to learn to cook it himself. When Steve and I married there were some foods he thought he didn't like until I cooked them. As it turned out, they were foods his late wife didn't like, and he thought he didn't like them either. Funny the way that works, as he now is fond of all the foods he thought he didn't like. Either that, or he's even smarter than I thought.
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Old 09-20-2014, 08:50 PM   #3
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Tom, your timing for this topic couldn't be better.

SO and I also have different tastes. Not so much in the same manner as your DW and you. She just doesn't have as broad a range of eating experience so finds fewer foods desirable. When she cooks, he meals are simpler and plain.

For example, she doesn't like foods in gravies or sauces. So pan fried pork chops in onion gravy is out. She doesn't like cream sauces so no Alfredo, e.g. She also doesn't like lamb, salmon, or Luca Lazzari's lasagna bolognese.

I cook all the meals. Until three weeks ago she was working a regular job so that was convenient. I expect this to continue. I wouldn't cook meals she dislikes. That's rude. Some nights we eat different meals, but not often.

She is currently on a 3.5 week vacation with her daughter in Florida. I have taken this opportunity to embark on the "Andy eats whatever he wants" adventure. I'm enjoying lasagna, gravies, sauces, and a host of other things.

It works both ways. I never made (or ate) lasagna as I really don't care for ricotta. Then Luca posted his recipe (In italy they don't use ricotta in lasagna) and I was in heaven. I must have made it 4-5 times when she offhand mentioned she really didn't like it. I asked why she didn't say something sooner and she replied that she kept her mouth shut because I liked it so much...

What I really dislike is when she decides to diet with an Atkins-type low carb plan. You know how many recipes that eliminates.

All in all, it's part of peaceful co-existence.
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Old 09-20-2014, 08:51 PM   #4
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I guess I've been very lucky throughout my life, as both my husbands have loved my cooking, and both of my kids did too. I've always been the primary cook, and I must say that I cook what tastes good to me as I just can't imagine cooking any other way.
For example, I don't like the flavors of Indian cuisine and if Steve did, he'd have to learn to cook it himself. When Steve and I married there were some foods he thought he didn't like until I cooked them. As it turned out, they were foods his late wife didn't like, and he thought he didn't like them either. Funny the way that works, as he now is fond of all the foods he thought he didn't like. Either that, or he's even smarter than I thought.
Can't wait to hear souschef's side of the story.
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Old 09-20-2014, 08:55 PM   #5
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Before we got married, I had to pass certain tests: I had to love her Chile Verde, eat pork ribs with my fingers, and love her turkey dressing.
In fact the first time I sampled her dressing, it was after Thanksgiving, and we were meeting for lunch. She took it out of the trunk of her car, and I put it in mine. It looked like a dope deal lol
I passed all 3 tests, and we will be celebrating our 7th anniversary this year in November.
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Old 09-20-2014, 08:59 PM   #6
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lol, andy.

sousie has a choice of in-flight meals and k-l's cooking. that's a no brainer.

unless that's why he flies...


j/k k-l.

actually, andy, your recent bachelorhood was part of the genesis of my thoughts on this matter.
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If DH doesn't like what I cook, then he can help himself to the Cheerios. Thankfully, even if he doesn't like something, I find him digging into it later. My SIL cooks really healthy, and refuses ANY help in the kitchen when we visit. The stuff she makes would gag a maggot. Baby Bro does a much better job, but he's not allowed to cook.
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lol @ gag a maggot. i've gotta remember that one.
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Before we got married, I had to pass certain tests: I had to love her Chile Verde, eat pork ribs with my fingers, and love her turkey dressing.
In fact the first time I sampled her dressing, it was after Thanksgiving, and we were meeting for lunch. She took it out of the trunk of her car, and I put it in mine. It looked like a dope deal lol
I passed all 3 tests, and we will be celebrating our 7th anniversary this year in November.
I love tests you don't have to study for!
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I still cook for myself and my brother. (He won't go near prawns or strong goats cheese, but otherwise is very happy to sample whatever I produce!)
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