Originally Posted by Kayelle
Oh Monky, I really understand your feelings as I also lost my father to Alzhimers, and it's an odd kind of grief. It's really called the "long goodbye" for good reason, and we send them on their way with love. I remember when you lost your brother, the same way I lost mine, and my parents never got over it either.
You're sister is going to need help in finding her way out of being the care giver. For many, it's not an easy thing to do.
It hit me like a brick when my brother died.Truly never thought that something like that would strike twice in my family.But it did.Was I a mess or what?Got over it? No.I've just learned to keep looking for the bright things in life.Toss aside the petty, insecure, negative people in my life.Wish them well.Move on.
Your right about my sister.
She took my mom to the hospital.She was unable to speak anymore.
Wouldn't eat, sip water nothing.She was weighed in at 40 Lbs.
They tried for4 hours just to get an IV in her small veins.When they finally did they ran tests.She was in full retinal failure.
They sent her home with my sister with Morphine, how much to give her.
It was just a matter of time when God wanted to take her home.
My sister was also given instructions that when it does happen who to call.
So she did exactly that.Now I think she has grounds for a lawsuit.
She was to call the police and the crematorium.
6 squad cars pulled up.They entered my sisters home ask where my mom was.Told my sister to leave the room.
The other officers took everyone in the house into different areas and grilled them.Demanding Id time of death.Cause of death.They were interrogated.
My sister especially.One demanded to know WHY Hospice wasn't there.
WHY did my mom die.Basically treating her death as a crime scene.Even though my sister gave them proof and the reason,medical info.Dr's name and that Mom would have wanted to be home.Their wasn't time for Hospice to help.
Mom had a live in nurse for Pete's sake!
What pissed my sister off the most was that they took pictures of my dead Mother.Why?
They took pictures of her Morphine vile.Dr's name and a whole lot of other things.My sister was still in shock.She didn't need that at all.
Today my other sister finally decided to contact my sister.She was snarky wanting to know about moms insurance money.Can you believe that?
See, and people up there wonder why I don't come around.
I would if I like them.But sense I don't, what's the point?
My sister has me.Always will.The rest don't even know we took care of Mom's final arrangements a year or so ago.Were slick like that.