Originally Posted by bethzaring
pds, that's perfect!
And Gretchen, that is quite generous of you, I know how much a cow costs! Actually, the organization I contribute to is Heifer International. Used to be called the Heifer Project. And I buy goats in the name of my relatives. That's why I was concerned at first, what would the MIL think of not only not receiving a gift, but that I used that money to buy a goat? (She is not particularly enamored with goats). But like pds' family, she always says to skip the gifts........and she really is happy with this solution.
I haven't seen the list yet so don't know. I just want them to be introduced to that concept of thinking of ones that have so much less than they do. In the past I have given goats from somewhere and solar ovens.
We always gave a gift to our Medical Alliance Endowment in honor of my husband's parents. They REALLY liked that--they were generous people to charities in their own lives and this meant a lot to them. It became quite personal with them.
As for always giving gifts and not honorary donations for friends and family, we are at a stage of life where we need nor want for anything and also need to divest what we have. I, of course, can always find room for grandchildren's art and gifts--and anyone else's who are thoughtful enough to do something for us.
But with the needs of the world SO great, it seems thoughtless not to try to alleviate it in some way when the opportunity is there. I know our friends really appreciate that we do this. And it is also a great way to "spread the word" about charities and needs.