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Old 05-12-2008, 08:49 PM   #41
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Gee BT, I knew your cat was not well but I didn't realise just how bad things were. I am so sorry to read this thread and am eating thru the tissues as I do. Sorry also that I didn't log on sooner to read this. I hope you get to be with her when she goes. Heartfelt sympathies to you and yours.

The only time I have had to explain death to a toddler was when I was about 20 and my neighbour's kid was with me when I had to bury a dead dove that one of my cats had caught. I was just straight with him and he understood it, or at least seemed to. A couple of months later, he and his family relocated to the other side of the country and made it a camping trip by car. His parents couldn't understand why each time they dug a latrine he would ask about digging up doves!

What I have experienced and is possibly true for your son as well, is the thought of the absence is worse than the concept of death itself. So my limited advice to you would be to deal with it as two different subjects.

Hope she goes peacefully with you.

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Old 05-19-2008, 02:13 AM   #42
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just a quick update: after speaking to a few vets, we decided to begin to give doodie sub-cutaneous fluids to help her be a little more comfortable in her final days. that wasn't fun. i hate needles, and hope to never have to stab anyone or anything ever again.

she lasted a week, but by saturday afternoon we saw that she was no longer able to absorb the fluids. the sign we dreaded.

so dw spent saturday night with her, and i sat with her today, holding her for hours through a couple of seizures before i finally had to take her to have her put down.

she slipped away about 6 o'clock tonight, just after the first sedative was introduced. the vet agreed that from my descriptions, she was unaware of what was happening and would not have lived much longer. we had intervened just in time to spare her the painful end.

tomorrow, i have to explain this to my boy. i am truely grateful for all of your words and advice, and thank you all for your support.

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Old 05-19-2008, 05:30 AM   #43
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Sorry to hear it was such a bad weekend Tom, I hope your little guy wont take it too hard for too long.
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Old 05-19-2008, 05:42 AM   #44
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Oh BT, I'm so sorry!!
I'm am sure that had you and your wife not been there for her, she would not have gone so peacefully. You gave her a loving home to grow in and you should feel good about that. Your boy will rebound. Young ones always do. Bless you!!
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Old 05-19-2008, 07:47 AM   #45
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I am so sorry Bucky!!!
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Old 05-19-2008, 08:15 AM   #46
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Oh bucky - I'm all choked up. Just have a good cry with him and make him feel as secure as you can. Hugs to DW too.

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Old 05-19-2008, 08:22 AM   #47
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Sorry to hear of your loss, BT. Our thoughts are with you guys.
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Old 05-19-2008, 09:07 AM   #48
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I'm sorry Bucky.... it's so sad.
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Old 05-19-2008, 10:28 AM   #49
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I'm so sorry for your loss, bt. It sounds like her last few days were bittersweet. I'm glad ya'll knew when it was time to let her go so you were able to spare her any suffering, but I know how hard it must have been for both of you. I hope your son isn't too heartbroken and that you're all able to get past the sadness soon so that you can remember all the wonderful times you had with your dear old girl. Hugs to all 3 of you.
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Old 05-19-2008, 11:35 AM   #50
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buckytom: Please give your little guy a hug from all of us here at DC and tell him how sorry we all are.

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