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Guy playing with children 15 42.86%
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Old 09-30-2008, 07:29 AM   #61
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yeah my friend is a ball room instructor with his wife at BYU Utah and i asked him if he would teach me a dance or two. he said no problem. Dancing is not my favorite thing to do BUT i am willing to learn so that on my future weddin night, i dont look like a fool. But i have to be dating a girl first and i dont even have one picked out. LOL
You don't have to be dating a girl to take dancing lessons. You can pick up a partner at the dance class...and I have seen many a poor, awkward male dancer at their wedding...better get those feet shuffling..
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Old 09-30-2008, 11:42 AM   #62
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You don't have to be dating a girl to take dancing lessons. You can pick up a partner at the dance class...and I have seen many a poor, awkward male dancer at their wedding...better get those feet shuffling..
I mean im not even dating a girl so i shouldnt be planning any wedding stuff.,
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Old 09-30-2008, 11:45 AM   #63
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you want to impress me......I've been married for 35 years and my hubby is not handsome or a hunk but what impressed me was the way he interacted with his mom ..........if guys respect the women in their lives they will respect you, too.........the women at my husband's office call him the "godfather" they love him so much........throw out the gd guitar and get back to the basics...........:):)
LOLOL, Ok will do..
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Old 09-30-2008, 11:47 AM   #64
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I've never understood why you guys seem to have such a difficult time trying to "woo" us.. It's been said many times, but i'll say it anyways.. Just be yourself! What works for one girl, probably won't work for the next... be true to yourself, be faithful, and honest, and you won't have any troubles.. :)
Because isnt wooing what we are supposed to do by nature? LOL or is that not true.
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Old 09-30-2008, 11:55 AM   #65
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LT.......let me clue you in.......women want a husband.........stop being the stud.......they don't want that.......remember you are the one who asked what they wanted......that's what they want and a husband who cares about them........
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Old 09-30-2008, 12:22 PM   #66
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I mean im not even dating a girl so i shouldnt be planning any wedding stuff.,

my point is, if you went to a dance class, you would be outnumbered by the opposite sex, you would have women in your arms,.. they would notice you... heck, even take your guitar
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Old 09-30-2008, 12:31 PM   #67
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my point is, if you went to a dance class, you would be outnumbered by the opposite sex, you would have women in your arms,.. they would notice you... heck, even take your guitar
I see what you are saying. lol..
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LT.......let me clue you in.......women want a husband.........stop being the stud.......they don't want that.......remember you are the one who asked what they wanted......that's what they want and a husband who cares about them........
I stopped being the stud along time ago when i noticed nothing happened from it..
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Old 09-30-2008, 12:41 PM   #69
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really, hahaha........I believe you
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Old 09-30-2008, 12:42 PM   #70
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Here's my take on women, for what it's worth.

1. I've been around for 53 years today, and have had the opportunity to learn much, to make mistakes, and injoy successes, and so have a bit of wisdom to share (though of course, I have just scratched the surface of this particular subject, as have all of us.).

2. Women are far more like men that society would have us believe, and we are far more like women in the same way.

That being said, let me explain. There are differences to be sure. We think slightly different. Women remember dates, times, and events better than we do, especially when a crisis develops. That's just the way it is. On the other hand, men tend to think more linearly than do women. That means we generally have the ability to stick with a problem longer, and therefore solve them more often, which makes us valuable in the work place. But then again, women are generally better at multi-tasking than are men. Women are more nuturing as a group. Women are more empathetic. A guy who sees a child with a minor cut or abrasion is likely to say to the child something flippant like (It can't hurt that much. I can't feel it.) in an effort to divert the child's attention away from the pain and replace tha pain with humor. That usually doesn't work well for a child, though it works great for a man with a minor cut or abrasion. We tend to ignore pain better than do women.

But women can help comfort the child, diverting the child's thoughts with caring love and tenderness. Is either better or worse? Not really. both attempt to do the smae thing but in different ways. Also, a man's response is usually better for teens and up, while a woman's response is better for a child, and for those who really need a sympathetic ear.

As for other aspects of women, the part where we are more alike than different, women love to feel good about themselves, just as we men do. We all need a pat on the back every now and again. And if you help your woman freind feel better about herself, then you are considered a valuable relationship. Women love humor, jsut as we do. But remember, the woman tends to look for less raunchy humor, something that is a little more cerebral, though not in all cases (my wife for instance). Women love the truth, and most importantly, integrity. If you are honest, and honest in your dealings, you are way ahead of the game. As was said in previous posts, be true to yourself. If you can cook well, then make her a meal. If she loves music, and you are musically inclined, engage her in a duet, or write her a song. If you are a motorhead, let her know, and if she's interested in the subject, offer to let her help, or even take the lead on a project. If she loves arts and crafts, introduce her to tying fishing flies, while you take a serious look at whatever craft she enjoys. And above all, respect her in every way.

Find out what she's interested in, and if you have similar or same interests. Build on those interests with her. In a good relationship, neither partner is the "boss". Both partners are part of a united team, working to help the other member feel as good as they can. But it must be understood by both parties that no two people see everything the same way, or have the same tastes in everything. There are usually multiple resolutions to every challenge, with most of them being valid resolutions. So just because she doesn't agree with your methodology for fixing a problem, it soesn't mean that you are more right or less right than she is. Come to value different points of view, and encourage her to do the same. Then you can always work together to find solutions to problems.

Always, always, always, put her needs before your own. And she should do the same, that is, put your needs before her own. That takes selfishness out of the equation and nearly garuntees success.

So, in summary; be honest and sincere; understand that you have inherent differences; that you have similar needs; that you are a team; that you look for common ground; that you try to become selfless; that you work to build each other up, and never, never tear each other down. Respect her. And should the chemistry be right, love her impliciltly.

There is something to be said for abstinance before marriage. That act screams to the world that you respect this woman beyond freindship, beyond the norms of society, but that you respect her enough to wait until you give yourself completely to her through marriage. Adn marriage is a contract that says to the world that you are devoting yourself to her, and her alone, and that no other thing is as important as is that relationship.

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