i kinda see both sides of the effort thing.
my 2 cents: when you are young, it's natural to give 110%, occasionally wasting some if not all of your effort. you need to find your limits, so the only way to know is to tip the balance. then run the other way.
all things are new and exciting.
when you get a little older, you learn to find the balance of effort and efficiency. it's then when you can really enjoy your experiences, living in the moment.
when you get much older, you learn to conserve effort, using your lifetime of experience to help guide you to the most enjoyment from the most efficient practices.
lol, so sayeth i.
and as far as food and love goes: when i learned that cooking well impressed women, that's
when i really got into it. so, you could say that i learned to cook, for, well... you know....
love and companionship
, gw!!! get your mind out of the gutter. (he hee!)