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Old 09-12-2013, 12:51 AM   #1
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I Am Adopted

I did not attempt to mislead all of you here. I was adopted when I was 3 months old. My birth parents did not want me. I know this is a bad thing to be unwanted.

Mamma could not bear children and so she and Papa adopted me. Mamma said this is a good website and she permitted me to tell the truth. It did concern me that my new friends here did not know the truth. DA did agree with this telling.

I am trying to be the best I can be. I owe my family and my new country to be the very best I can be.

I do not know what adoption means in my new country. I do know I love my parents and my family more than I can explain. I do know to be unwanted and then to have this life is not always the life of someone who is adopted.

I hope I have not disappointed anyone. It was the time for the truth.

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Old 09-12-2013, 03:07 AM   #2
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I did not attempt to mislead all of you here. I was adopted when I was 3 months old. My birth parents did not want me. I know this is a bad thing to be unwanted.

Mamma could not bear children and so she and Papa adopted me. Mamma said this is a good website and she permitted me to tell the truth. It did concern me that my new friends here did not know the truth. DA did agree with this telling.

I am trying to be the best I can be. I owe my family and my new country to be the very best I can be.

I do not know what adoption means in my new country.
I do know I love my parents and my family more than I can explain. I do know to be unwanted and then to have this life is not always the life of someone who is adopted.

I hope I have not disappointed anyone. It was the time for the truth.

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~Cat
It means someone loves you!

How can that disappoint anyone?
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Old 09-12-2013, 04:06 AM   #3
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It means someone loves you!

How can that disappoint anyone?
Thank you so very much for understanding this. My family loves me very much and I owe them so very much.

I am relieved I have not disappointed anyone.

Thank you!

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Old 09-12-2013, 08:12 AM   #4
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Being adopted in this country, and I suspect in most countries, is nothing to be ashamed of. Rather, you should be proud. There is a lot of hoops to jump through for the parents and it means that you are loved.
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Old 09-12-2013, 09:25 AM   #5
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We appreciate your sharing this with us. However, you should not feel obligated to do so. It doesn't change who you are.
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Old 09-12-2013, 09:30 AM   #6
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We appreciate your sharing this with us. However, you should not feel obligated to do so. It doesn't change who you are.
+1. And you should not feel obligated to tell anyone in real life, either. It's a fact of your life, like hair color. No need to announce it

And maybe your birth parents felt they could not take care of you as well as an adoptive family. It is an act of love to give up a child to a better home.
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Old 09-12-2013, 09:46 AM   #7
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Adopted children are especially loved, their parents picked them!
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Old 09-12-2013, 09:59 AM   #8
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Thank you all so much! I am very lucky and blessed. In my former country, it is as a stigma to be adopted. I was not sure of this here.

I am happy this is not a stigma here! Mamma was right. Americans are much nicer about this.

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Thank you all so much! I am very lucky and blessed. In my former country, it is as a stigma to be adopted. I was not sure of this here.

I am happy this is not a stigma here! Mamma was right. Americans are much nicer about this.

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It saddens me that people would stigmatize an innocent baby for being adopted. Here, we celebrate adoption.
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Old 09-12-2013, 11:57 AM   #10
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We all love and adore children. Hold your head up and be proud of what and who you and you parents are. We don't expect you to tell us you are adopted but being as you've chosen to I'm proud to know you. Feel welcome to reply to me as you wish. And remember head up and smile.
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