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Old 12-21-2008, 06:32 PM   #31
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Hi,

Although I am new here and we have not met, I understand what you are going through. Christmas is always a tough time for me too, having been raised by my bipolar alcoholic father and despondent mother -I suffer from PTSD (just realized this recently) and many things trigger me - loud voices, our toddler hurting himself, someone not listening to me, etc etc etc - and this time of year everything is amplified.

Let's all stick together and get through this - we are not alone!

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Old 12-21-2008, 06:49 PM   #32
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Hi, Laurie!

I'm glad you're making progress and I understand how valuable our DC family is. Without their love and support, in June, when Buck died I don't know I would've survived.

I'm having great difficulty with this Christmas season but it's because I'm celebrating it alone. Buck so loved this season and his enthusiasm was infectious. Without him, I really don't care to do anything.

I forced myself to prepare food gifts for our usual recipients and delivered them with as much cheer as I could muster. I felt as though I was just "performing." Pasted on a smile and said, "Merry Christmas" as I handed each their baskets/bags.

Hang in there and lean on DC. It's truly a safe haven.
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Old 12-21-2008, 08:13 PM   #33
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Hi, Laurie!

I'm glad you're making progress and I understand how valuable our DC family is. Without their love and support, in June, when Buck died I don't know I would've survived.

I'm having great difficulty with this Christmas season but it's because I'm celebrating it alone. Buck so loved this season and his enthusiasm was infectious. Without him, I really don't care to do anything.

I forced myself to prepare food gifts for our usual recipients and delivered them with as much cheer as I could muster. I felt as though I was just "performing." Pasted on a smile and said, "Merry Christmas" as I handed each their baskets/bags.

Hang in there and lean on DC. It's truly a safe haven.
Now, the half full version of your story:
Despite losing Buck, you went into your kitchen and resolved to get some holiday baking done. And you succeeded. Then, you packaged everything beautifully and hand-delivered your special food gifts to your friends and family who expressed their gratitude and love towards you for all your effort. I am sure the heartfelt thanks and hugs felt good, too.

Hmmm, doesn't sound so bad when you put it this way, does it?

This version of Katie's story tells the same facts but is much more positive and powerful. Kudos to you Katie. Kudos indeed!
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Old 12-21-2008, 08:14 PM   #34
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Hi,

Although I am new here and we have not met, I understand what you are going through. Christmas is always a tough time for me too, having been raised by my bipolar alcoholic father and despondent mother -I suffer from PTSD (just realized this recently) and many things trigger me - loud voices, our toddler hurting himself, someone not listening to me, etc etc etc - and this time of year everything is amplified.

Let's all stick together and get through this - we are not alone!

Tara
Welcome to DC, Tara.
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Old 12-21-2008, 08:50 PM   #35
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I have suffered from depression off and on for most of my life, and holiday blues are tough.
Something that has always made me feel better is to do something nice for someone else.
The Christmas after my mother had died the day before Thanksgiving, a young family had a fire and lost everything. A drop off point was established for donated clothing, but I wrapped up toys for their three young children tagging them, "from Santa," and my dad dropped them off.

You'd be surprised how much better it made me feel.

You don't have to spend money...just call some elderly person that is all alone and wish them Merry Christmas.
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Old 12-21-2008, 09:45 PM   #36
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Okay, now for the tear jerker part of my story. A few years ago money was really tight as I was in school and DH got laid off and had a very difficult finding another job. We agreed to get each other something that had to be under $10.00 but was well thought out as something the other person really needed or wanted. That has become our tradition ever since and we love it. Part of my depression came from the fact I couldn't get out to shop on my own, my friends work and the one time I booked the disabled bus to go shopping it was cancelled due to snow.

So tonight I had a fire going and some homemade soy hot cocoa (DH is lactose intolerant). I stashed a lot of the junk that has been cluttering our living room from the flood into our unuseable bedroom and put all of our Christmas cards, my new ornament and some lit candles on the coffee table. Then I made a big pot of chowder and waited for him to come home. He was very touched.

Well, he asked me if I wanted to wait until Christmas to open our presents or do it earlier (he works that day). I told him that this evening was his present because he was out in the cold and because I couldn't get him anything. He then asked if I minded that he bought something for me to give him because he knew I couldn't get out on my own. Mind? I hugged him and cryed for about 15 minutes.

Folks, I have found my Little Christmas - here with all of you and in the arms of my wonderful loving husband.

I think I will be more than okay now.

Susan, thank you for your positive attitude and all your help. I hope it helps you find your "gumption" as well.
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Old 12-21-2008, 09:50 PM   #37
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I have suffered from depression off and on for most of my life, and holiday blues are tough.
Something that has always made me feel better is to do something nice for someone else.
The Christmas after my mother had died the day before Thanksgiving, a young family had a fire and lost everything. A drop off point was established for donated clothing, but I wrapped up toys for their three young children tagging them, "from Santa," and my dad dropped them off.

You'd be surprised how much better it made me feel.

You don't have to spend money...just call some elderly person that is all alone and wish them Merry Christmas.
That is what Christmas is all about giving and sharing to others that may not have much to celebrate at least to me I do not care about what I get etc but rather give a gift or a make a nice meal for someone else who just can't have a decent Christmas. I feel that we should not wait until Christmas to have goodwill to others but in fact have goodwill all year round which is why to me Christmas is kind of odd as I think we should be giving all year and not wait for a Holiday just to be kind.
OH, and I have been on Paxil for a few years and absolutley love it, it has changed my live and I have no intentions of getting off of it. EVER.
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I have suffered from depression off and on for most of my life, and holiday blues are tough.
Something that has always made me feel better is to do something nice for someone else.
The Christmas after my mother had died the day before Thanksgiving, a young family had a fire and lost everything. A drop off point was established for donated clothing, but I wrapped up toys for their three young children tagging them, "from Santa," and my dad dropped them off.

You'd be surprised how much better it made me feel.

You don't have to spend money...just call some elderly person that is all alone and wish them Merry Christmas.
I totally agree with that and this is why we help with the outreach banquet every year. It is incredible how it makes you feel. I was so happy that is was yesterday because it (and sharing with all of you) really helped to turn me around. Thanks, Constance, for sharing.
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Well, I am going to finish the makosh tomorrow. I like to make the filling one day and the dough the next. Mr. Fazekas shall be getting a knock on his door either tomorrow evening or Tuesday morning.
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Old 12-21-2008, 10:09 PM   #40
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You know, for anyone who has forgotten the spirit of Christmas they just need to come here and see the joy and love we share with each other every day. Sending hugs to Katie, and to Laurie, sharing goofy stories and secret santas. I love you all so much and I'm so glad to have this online family. You truly enrich my life. Thanks everyone.
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