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Old 05-29-2007, 03:00 PM   #1
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I need some personal advice please

As most of you know, I'm treatment for prescription drug abuse/addict. I didn't go today since I was waiting to hear on a job (which I got!). I ran some errands and came home to a message form someone in my treatment. He was concerned and wanted to know if I was OK.

I called him back and just got off the phone with him.

He is an alcoholic.

He was drunk just now. He didn't admit to it, but he was severly slurring his words.

My dilemna: Do I report this? He is a friend and I don't want to make him mad, but he needs to be sober!

I'm already waiting on a call back from my counselor. I'm not sure if I should tell her about this.

Any thoughts?

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Old 05-29-2007, 03:03 PM   #2
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im no pro...but why dont you ask him if he is drunk? i wouldnt report him with out at the very LEAST doing that!
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Old 05-29-2007, 03:04 PM   #3
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Definitelly. You should. Even though it is AA, somebody needs to help this person. Better yet ask your counselor she will be more qualified to answer your question. Just do not use the name of the person before getting an answer. Ask a hypothetical question first. Oh, yeah, and be prepare for that person to be upset with you.
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Old 05-29-2007, 03:19 PM   #4
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I am thinking about calling him back to ask him. I went to one AA meeting with him (four are required for this rehab program) and the night before that he drank as well. The next time we had treatment, he came clean to everyone. Now he's drinking again.
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I would say no - I would be there for support and a sounding board. He needs a friend he can count on. He is the only one that can change things- and be determined to want a better life for himself.
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Old 05-29-2007, 03:50 PM   #6
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I would contact his sponsor, immediately.
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Old 05-29-2007, 04:16 PM   #7
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Angie, ask him the tough question and if the answer is yes, encourage him to be the one to 'fess up.
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Old 05-29-2007, 04:20 PM   #8
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it sounds like he already did fess up. if thats the case...there isnt much u, or any one else can do...hes gotta do the *not drinking* part on his own. all u can do is support him while hes doing that.

if you re-habbing succesfully, and hes decided to drink..i would stay far away from him if i were you.

but thats just me...and as i said b4, im no pro.
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Old 05-29-2007, 04:28 PM   #9
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Mugsy, I don't think he DID fess up yet. Angie said this:
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He was drunk just now. He didn't admit to it, but he was severly slurring his words.
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Old 05-29-2007, 04:28 PM   #10
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if you re-habbing succesfully, and hes decided to drink..i would stay far away from him if i were you.

but thats just me...and as i said b4, im no pro.
Starting next week I wont be in rehab with him. I got a job and will have to switch to the evening outpatient rehab.

I'm still torn. I'm not helping him any by NOT saying anything..I honestly think he needs to go through hospital detox and then inpatient treatment.
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