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Old 06-21-2008, 10:37 AM   #501
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Katie, I think the bithday party is a lovely idea. I decided that for tomorrow's dessert I am going to make a small cake, and decorate it in Buck's honour. That way I can share this with MY family.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family this weekend and always.
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Old 06-21-2008, 11:41 AM   #502
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katie, i've been on vacation, and have been trying all week to get dw's laptop working so i could see how buck is doing. (my system is in pieces on a coffe table in the basement)

i was finally able to log on thursday and look for this thread, but then it crashed again. probably this time from my tears.

the past few days have given me time to try to think of a way to tell you how sorry i am, from the deepest part of my heart. you have been in my thoughts constantly, but there are no words to express these feelings.

you and buck are and always will be a shining example of how great a couple could be. how precious love can be. how much of a gift we've been given by god, and how people like you and buck take that gift and show the rest of us how it's done. with grace, and humor, and respect.

thank you for sharing yourselves and your love for each other with us. because of you, an example has been set forth for us all to see and to follow.

i know buck is in heaven already, so i'll only continue to pray for you and yours, that your sadness wanes, but the memories of the greatness of a man named "buck" will continue on forever. i will miss him, until we can all meet again someday, as one.
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Old 06-21-2008, 06:36 PM   #503
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but then it crashed again. probably this time from my tears.the past few days have given me time to try to think of a way to tell you how sorry i am, from the deepest part of my heart. you have been in my thoughts constantly, but there are no words to express these feelings.you and buck are and always will be a shining example of how great a couple could be. how precious love can be. how much of a gift we've been given by god, and how people like you and buck take that gift and show the rest of us how it's done. with grace, and humor, and respect.thank you for sharing yourselves and your love for each other with us. because of you, an example has been set forth for us all to see and to follow.i know buck is in heaven already, so i'll only continue to pray for you and yours, that your sadness wanes, but the memories of the greatness of a man named "buck" will continue on forever. i will miss him, until we can all meet again someday, as one.
that was lovely Bucky, how true also...
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Old 06-21-2008, 07:17 PM   #504
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We have a memorial party started under "Songs for Buck and Katie", if anyone wants to provide music, or virtual food and beverages.
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Old 06-21-2008, 07:49 PM   #505
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I was exploring, reading through "Dove's Kitchen Table" and found this quote from Buck:

"Hi Marge, Just want to join in with what Katie said. We love you and look forward to the journey. Be well!
Buck"
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Old 06-21-2008, 08:45 PM   #506
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katie, i've been on vacation, and have been trying all week to get dw's laptop working so i could see how buck is doing. (my system is in pieces on a coffe table in the basement)

i was finally able to log on thursday and look for this thread, but then it crashed again. probably this time from my tears.

the past few days have given me time to try to think of a way to tell you how sorry i am, from the deepest part of my heart. you have been in my thoughts constantly, but there are no words to express these feelings.

you and buck are and always will be a shining example of how great a couple could be. how precious love can be. how much of a gift we've been given by god, and how people like you and buck take that gift and show the rest of us how it's done. with grace, and humor, and respect.

thank you for sharing yourselves and your love for each other with us. because of you, an example has been set forth for us all to see and to follow.

i know buck is in heaven already, so i'll only continue to pray for you and yours, that your sadness wanes, but the memories of the greatness of a man named "buck" will continue on forever. i will miss him, until we can all meet again someday, as one.
I was also really touched by what Buckytom wrote, and I tried to give him karma, but it wouldn't let me. To my remembrance, I've never given him any before, but it said I had to spread it around......
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Old 06-22-2008, 01:09 AM   #507
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Well...it's all over. The service was this afternoon at 1:00. Nice crowd. All our children, their spouses/fiancees, and all our grandchildren were here, along with Buck's only sibling, his brother, John. Two of my brothers were here, too. So Buck's farewell was filled with family and friends.

I chose three pieces of music for the service - Amazing Grace, Because You Loved Me (Celine Dion), and Believe (Brooks and Dunn). The first and last ones were Buck's favorites. The middle one was our life together.

Lots of flowers. So beautiful.

Yesterday the mayor stopped by to offer his condolences. He told me that the city had purchased a large crepe myrtle, which would be at the funeral home, that would be planted in the city park. A bronze plaque with Buck's name, etc. will be placed in front of the tree. So sweet.

The two pastors did a wonderful job and Buck would have been touched with what they said about him. He loved these two men and I was glad they conducted the funeral today.

Tomorrow two of our sons are going to cook breakfast for everyone at my brother Kevin's house. That's where everyone is staying. I'll probably get there a little before 9 to eat with everyone.

I won't get Buck's "urn" until Tuesday, but that's okay. There's plenty to do before then.

Earlier this evening, Buck's two sons rented a truck and loaded it with many of his big shop tools. I told them they could have anything they wanted. Good thing, too. A little less for the state to get their paws on.

I'm not looking forward to getting the bills from the hospitals/doctors/ambulance/airlift service. I'm sure it's not going to be pretty.

Today was a great drain on me and I'm more weary than tired. I'm glad Nicole and Paul are staying until Friday.

Well, it's "tomorrow" for me, so I'd best get some sleep so I can feel rested before our custom breakfast.
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It sounds like Buck's send off would have been one he approved of. I know how much work it was to make all of the preparations and I'm so glad it went off so well. Amazing Grace is my favorite song, too. I think it's the first song I learned to sing as a child.

I hope getting Buck back home on Tuesday will bring you a special peace. Have you decided where to put him?

I'm so glad to hear some of the kids can stay until Friday because there are bound to be lots of things still left to do. But take your time and above all, take care of yourself because most stuff will wait until tomorrow.

Love and Peace,
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Dear Katie: What a trooper you are! Amazing Grace.... my favorite, too... and I think it describes you in the face of all this.

Just one small piece of "advice" for these coming days and weeks.... whatever anyone wants of or from you, make them wait until you have had a chance to consider it, and/or discuss it with your lawyer or whomever else you deem appropriate. No matter what anyone says, nothing is so urgent that you can't take your time to consider the consequences.

A crepe myrtle in the park in Buck's memory..... a hint into what kind of man he was.....

Love you lots,
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Old 06-22-2008, 02:55 AM   #510
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I wasn't going to read this thread and post as I really don't know those involved too well. To lose a person so integral to your existance for so many years must be shattering. My wife and I are in a similar situation being each others soul mates. We are rarely ever apart except for working.

I am so sorry for your loss. I don't really know what to say except that atleast, this way, you got to see him over his last days knowing they were his last days, rather than have him suddenly ripped away. I had the same thing with my father holding his hand while he died.

Cling to those happy memories you have built up over the years and in the months and years ahead, whenever your mind begins to dwell on Buck, remember these happy times and celebrate his life and your time together. Reading your posts I know he was a great guy without ever having to meet him, just by the amount you care.

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
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