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Old 02-20-2007, 10:44 PM   #1
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In the opinion of adults

Ok so I might have accidentally forgot to take my girlfriends birthday at work. I tried every possible way to have someone cover my shift, I even had a kid who would but the manager doesnt think he is good enough to work a thursday. Now i already gave my girlfriend the diamond necklace i spent 300 dollars on and suggested that maybe we go out on wednesday instead of thursday sense everyone who was gonna go can still go. She says im horrible and I ruined her birthday. I mean I buy her nice little presents all the time and got her a 3 diamond ring for our 1 year and i have taken her to The Top of the Hub twice. Was I really that bad of a boyfriend?

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Old 02-20-2007, 10:52 PM   #2
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I'm guessing she's saying the "things" you bought her dont matter, but more the idea that you would remember her birthday matter more? Not sure.
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Old 02-20-2007, 10:53 PM   #3
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You are not a bad boyfriend. Being a good boyfriend does not include risking your job to take her to dinner on her birthday.

The fact that she reacted as she did tells me more about her than it does about you. Get the necklace back and tell her to go fly a kite.
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HAHAHAHAHA that fly a kite thing was hilarious it made me laugh thank you!

Keep the opinions coming I want to know what you guys think.
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Old 02-20-2007, 11:00 PM   #5
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You can be my boyfriend!!! Hey, I think it is great what you did.... and if it is the day before or the day after makes no difference to me. And I would not think it would make much difference to her.... but keep in mind this all comes from a woman that does not put much stock in dates... meaning birthdays, anniversaries, and what not... they are days just like any other days to me!
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You are not a bad boyfriend. Being a good boyfriend does not include risking your job to take her to dinner on her birthday.

The fact that she reacted as she did tells me more about her than it does about you. Get the necklace back and tell her to go fly a kite.
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I made sure I was off for my GF's Bday, but even if I couldn't have made it, it would have been fine with her. A better example. Valentines day. I was working, I worked from 12-8:30pm. My solution, the weekend before, we did something for the entire weekend (mainly slept, we was tired).

Lemme ask a few questions before I go any further. How old are you/her, where do you/her live (parents or place of your/her own), what are you/her doing for a living (school, college, training programs, ect.)?

Here's my scenario. My GF is 3 1/2 years older than me (i'm going to be 23 she just turned 26. In my experiance, girls my age and younger are worth it for the wrong reasons (no comments please) and women who are a little older know what they want, don't play games and are ready to settle down. It's very uncommon for a guy my age to be ready to settle down and be with only one person. Everyone I know has told me that.

My honest advice, Find an older woman and do what you can. If a woman doesn't understand that you can only do so much and can't forgive you for something that minute, that she is not worth your time. I'd say, get you ring and necklace back, visit I Do...Now I Don't to sell the ring at a reasonable price and find an older woman! WOO-HOO!!!!!!
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Old 02-20-2007, 11:43 PM   #7
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I would rather think that she may be embarrassed because she now has no plans for her birthday day. It would truly be nice if the two of you could celebrate her birthday on Wednesday and she could celebrate on Thursday with a few close friends and maybe her family.
When a birthday falls on or about Valentine's Day, that person is sensitive about having their birthday remembered.
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Old 02-21-2007, 12:16 AM   #8
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Sometimes you just can't get the day off. Heck, my husband will be working our anniversary, one of our son's bday, thanksgiving and xmas this year. I'm not gonna get angry with him over something he has little or no control of.

A $300 necklace, wow!

You didn't ruin her birthday. She probably just wants a day that is all her own. Make it up to her over the weekend. Ladies choice the entire weekend.
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Old 02-21-2007, 12:47 AM   #9
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my boyfriend/fiance tries. $$$$$$ is great, so is love. if your relationship is meant to be, so be that. she doesn't appreciate you, ditch 'er. my gal opinion.
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My honest advice, Find an older woman and do what you can. If a woman doesn't understand that you can only do so much and can't forgive you for something that minute, that she is not worth your time. I'd say, get you ring and necklace back, visit I Do...Now I Don't to sell the ring at a reasonable price and find an older woman! WOO-HOO!!!!!!

Hey Kid...I'm available..LOL LOl LOl
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