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Old 08-08-2008, 05:59 AM   #11
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In general, most people are intimidated when they cook for me because they know what I do for a living. The fact that they are willing to give it a shot, anyway, always makes me that much more understanding. All I ever hear is "oh, I could never cook for you"....and I always respond "I wish you would, I'd love to try your xyz..."

So, if someone actually does cook for me, I always eat all of it, compliment something specific and thank them graciously. If they actually asked a specific technique question, like a 'how to' question, (how do I cook a lobster?, how do I roll out fresh pasta?, how do I blind bake something?) I'd answer.. But when it comes to flavours or textures, I'd just be complimentary.

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Old 08-08-2008, 06:22 AM   #12
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if it`s edible and tastes ok, I don`t really care if it`s not the same as I make or would taste better with(out) X,Y or Z.
so Technically I`m never in the position whereby I have to keep my mouth shut.

So long and Thanks for all the Fish ;)

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Old 08-08-2008, 06:27 AM   #13
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Originally Posted by Michael In FtW
I think that when a friend invites you over for a meal ... they are giving you a gift of the best they can prepare ... be gracious enough to keep your criticisms to yourself and just be grateful for the fact that they thought enough of you to even try to prepare you a meal.

IMHO - hospitality is not only how you treat a guest - it is also how you act as a guest.
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Old 08-08-2008, 07:10 AM   #14
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amen Uncle Bob, Michael said it well

I would never dream of commenting on a friends cooking. It's about the conversation/friendship, not about the food.
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Old 08-08-2008, 08:47 AM   #15
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Exactly. I am not even tempted to comment at the time. I always appreciate the efforts made on our behalf when someone invites us to dinner. It is not about the food; it is about the company of friends. I do, however, usually say something to DH on the way home, e.g., "why didn't she heat those rolls?" or "That meat was so dry? Why did she overcook it?"
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Old 08-08-2008, 09:11 AM   #16
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I reckon I, too, would like to make suggestions when at a friend's house for a meal.
I don't. It is not generally accepted in the spirit it is given.
Friendship is too valuable.
However, seein's as I am on a lifetime quest to learn as much as I can about the exquisite mysteries of various cuisines, I am always looking for suggestions and help.
That is the main reason I come here and read and post.
BTW, there are too many folks here to thank individually, so I will say a general THANK YOU to everyone here at DC. I have learned a tremendous amount.
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Old 08-08-2008, 09:58 AM   #17
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I say nothing, it is their kitchen not mine. This is also professional courtesy: a world class chef will not comment on the ways of a greasy spoon fry cook unless asked for help/advice...the reason? It's not my kitchen, he's the chef.

On the other side, if I'm asked and can make a quick suggestion I will, otherwise I will deflect it for later. And if the cook says, "oh, I can't do that!," well, so be it.

When a Gordon Ramsay goes into a failing restaurant and makes comments to beef it up, he does so with the request of the owners operators. If they choose not to listen to him as the expert consultant, well there is more than one fool in this world.

Gotta add one more thing: when I'm invited to someone's for dinner, I'm invited for the company and the event, not to critique the food. If my friends serve tuna melts and canned beets, that's their business and I will eat what I like of it and enjoy the evening.

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