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Old 08-07-2008, 10:48 PM   #1
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Keeping your mouth shut

How many of you have had a meal at a friends house and wish you could tell them how to make it better or more fantastic by adding this or that or some technique that would make it better. I for one have a hard time not saying something so I KEEP MY MOUTH SHUT and yet I'm dying to give them some input so it can be better. Some friends are open to suggestions but I think most are quite insulted if you try to suggest some other options. So I guess the question is do you try to give some advice or just KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT.

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Old 08-07-2008, 10:53 PM   #2
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I have seen a few threads lately that the same thing applies. I'm keeping my mouth shut!

No really, I guess to me it depends on the person. Some people you know that you can give them advice and ideas without being offended, other folks it is a KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT situation. I have friends like that it is just not worth the drama to say anything. They get hurt, and things get blown out of proportion in no time flat.

Me, I welcome the feed back.... it is the only way to learn!
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Old 08-07-2008, 10:54 PM   #3
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I don't say anything...I've had someone give me the why don't ya, how come your not, I don't appreciate the comments so I don't do it...Not that I'm not tempted
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Old 08-07-2008, 10:57 PM   #4
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Funny you should mention it, I'm having trouble keeping my mouth shut right NOW!!!
ok but not about food.... exactly....
But yes I really make an effort to keep my mouth shut when eating someone else's food.... even if I know they can take it..... unless they specifically ask what I think.
Just sort of manners I guess.
Plus my mother is the type to give out MUCH UNASKED FOR advice, and I think it's just plain awful to do to someone.
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Old 08-07-2008, 11:05 PM   #5
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I have seen a few threads lately that the same thing applies. I'm keeping my mouth shut!

No really, I guess to me it depends on the person. Some people you know that you can give them advice and ideas without being offended, other folks it is a KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT situation. I have friends like that it is just not worth the drama to say anything. They get hurt, and things get blown out of proportion in no time flat.

Me, I welcome the feed back.... it is the only way to learn!
I agree I also welcome more advise I then take it or ignore it.
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Old 08-07-2008, 11:12 PM   #6
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Depends on the person, how well I know them, etc. As pointed out some can take it others can't. Myself I often use that as a judge as to whether or not I will get along with someone, I prefer the people that are open to advice and suggestions. I also recognize that is a two way street, LOL. But I figure if they are the kind of person that is open to advice and understands it is take it or leave it as you please, they are probably pretty open about giving it as well and I can take all I can get, LOL.
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Old 08-07-2008, 11:13 PM   #7
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Ahhh, this is where being a club member biker has its advantages.

Let's say that Whacko Willie didn't use Budweiser on the bratwurst like we told him, and got cheap and used Schlitz.

If it's after labor day, you can use a maple pool cue and knock him straight into the fire pit while basting the pig. Never use an ash cue or bat with it's lighter color.

Even us bikers know not to use white after labor day...
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Old 08-07-2008, 11:17 PM   #8
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Ahhh, this is where being a club member biker has its advantages.

Let's say that Whacko Willie didn't use Budweiser on the bratwurst like we told him, and got cheap and used Schlitz.

If it's after labor day, you can use a maple pool cue and knock him straight into the fire pit while basting the pig. Never use an ash cue or bat with it's lighter color.

Even us bikers know not to use white after labor day...
Good etiquette is so important these days!!!
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Old 08-08-2008, 12:01 AM   #9
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Ahhh, this is where being a club member biker has its advantages.

Let's say that Whacko Willie didn't use Budweiser on the bratwurst like we told him, and got cheap and used Schlitz.

If it's after labor day, you can use a maple pool cue and knock him straight into the fire pit while basting the pig. Never use an ash cue or bat with it's lighter color.

Even us bikers know not to use white after labor day...
LOL - but what if Whacko Willie understands and appreciates the fact that Schlitz has a more intense malt flavor than Bud - and that is the flavor he is looking for?

I think that when a friend invites you over for a meal ... they are giving you a gift of the best they can prepare ... be gracious enough to keep your criticisms to yourself and just be grateful for the fact that they thought enough of you to even try to prepare you a meal.

IMHO - hospitality is not only how you treat a guest - it is also how you act as a guest.
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