Originally Posted by Chico Buller
Don't give your children too much. In fact, if you have a kid with a "free spirit" and tough demeanor, give them nothing.
chico, there's a lot that a dad can give his son besides money and his genes. (besides, my dad is short; i'd never fit into his jeans. nor ever fill his shoes.)
i was the last of six kids, and by the time i was two, at least one of my siblings was in college thorughout most of my childhood. that meant there was just enough money to get by, and my dad had to work all the time.
but, he made sure to try to make it to my ballgames and concerts and such, and spend time as many nights as possible just talking with me. about religion, and philosophy, and life experiences in general.
even though my friends (all of whom came from much more wealthy families) had more stuff and went on really nice vacations, my dad gave me more.
he took me fishing a few times, and we talked about his boyhood in ireland, fishing for trout on the foothills of croagh patrick. he gave me a love for fishing.
he also talked about his parents' farm in ireland, and planted a few veggie gardens in our backyard. he gave me a love for gardening.
he played a lot of music, from classical to pop, and everything in between; he gave me a love for music.
he read and we discussed books about early settlers, mountain men, and surviving in the wilderness. he gave me a love for camping and the outdoors.
he joked around and teased a lot, often in wry and backhanded ways. he gave me my sense of humour.
in my younger years, if i cried he hugged me; when i got older, he scolded me for being a baby.
when i got older, failing out of college and into drugs, he picked me up by my throat, pinning me to the wall. he gave me a choice of the military, or getting a job and paying rent while living under his roof and rules. he made me a man.
so there's a lot that a dad can give his son that doesn't have a monetary value, but is so much more important.