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Old 02-10-2010, 11:07 AM   #1
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Losing Priceless things

I don't really know whether I should talk about this or not, but its relevant, and you guys are family so here goes.

I've been living in a weird situation with my Mom's descent into Alzheimer's land this last 18 months - 2 years. In the last year we had a family member and her husband move in to help care for Mom. Long story short, they were BAD people and stole a LOT from my poor Mom. There is now a restraining order, and the authorities had to come to remove them from Mom's house. It was icky. Mom is OK, she is now moved into an assisted living place and is beginning to adjust. Thats the back story.

While moving Mom this week I discovered the latest nastiness. And really, it is something pretty minor in light of all the priceless antiques and china that were stolen from my Mom. The (bad word) took all my Mom's recipes. ALL of them. Every recipe box, every book that wasn't hidden...gone. There were recipes from 1919, and irreplaceable "family" recipes in Mom's boxes. I'm so angry I could just smack her from here to eternity. The worst part is that I know she won't USE them, just smile smugly because none of US can use them. ARGH. The only small bright spot is that I'd borrowed a couple of old cookbooks of my Gram's (1929 and 1935) to peruse them, so I still have those at least.

Can you believe that? The perfidy of some people!

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Old 02-10-2010, 11:27 AM   #2
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That is low and unconscionable. Even worse that it's a member of the family!

So sorry this happened, Alix. Those recipes were a way for you to remember your Mom and your earlier years.
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Old 02-10-2010, 11:52 AM   #3
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Alix,
I'm so sorry you had to deal with people like that while caring for your mom. And I know from experience that it's even worse when it's family that does those awful things. Enjoy those few cookbook's you do have and I pray that someday somehow those others will find their way back to you.
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Old 02-10-2010, 07:21 PM   #4
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What did your attorney advise you to do?????
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Old 02-10-2010, 08:15 PM   #5
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yes yes bob has it right. contact a lawyer and the police.
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Old 02-10-2010, 10:57 PM   #6
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Alix, that must be heartbreaking. Not only are you losing your mom but things that remind you of the good times. I'm so sorry you are going through this. I wish there was a way I could help besides posting here.
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Old 02-11-2010, 03:29 AM   #7
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Very sad.

This things generally doesn't happen here because old parents generally stay with their children.
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Old 02-11-2010, 07:49 AM   #8
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Alix, I'm so sorry this happened. I agree with those who say get an attorney.
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Old 02-11-2010, 08:55 AM   #9
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Dear Alix, I am so sorry you are having yet one more issue to deal with, one so nasty. I hope their bad karma gives them a swift bite in the butts

stuff like this makes it hard for me to "practice compassion"
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Old 02-11-2010, 09:23 AM   #10
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Alix,
the advice given is really the best for all of you. But remember the most priceless thing you have is your mother. Hold her close Alix, the other stuff are just things.
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