Originally Posted by Andy M.
Perhaps she's trying to live up to her perception of how her mom kept house. She doesn't want mom to be able to criticize her home as not being clean.
ETA: Thanks for coming back with an update.
My wife is now and was always a much better housekeeper than my MIL.
It does seem they both have differing views on the past.
Originally Posted by taxlady
Maybe your wife is trying to prove to her mother that she is a good house keeper. Might be trying to live up to her idea of her mother's standards.
I don't know. My MIL has nothing to do but watch everything my wife does. Its almost like having a puppy that follows you everywhere you go. My wife can go nowhere without my MIL expecting to go.
She even asks my wife where they are going the next day, when my wife has no plans to go anywhere.
The only time my wife has alone time is in the basement laundry room or out in the garden.
My MIL is helping too. Dishes and things she can do.
My wife is not one to seek counsel from anyone.
I am very concerned.
Originally Posted by Addie
This does sound like a matter from her childhood. Quite possibly as a child, she felt like she could never please her mother and she is constantly trying to prove to her that she is now as good as her mother expects her to be. Has your MIL said anything to her or noticed herself? How about a quiet conversation with your MIL. See what she has to say about it.
Not sure Addie. Its not normal behavior. By the time we get on our vacation, I am concerned she will not have the strength to enjoy it.
Getting ready for the vacation is the newest excuse for non stop work.
I am starting to get a bit angry. I don't like this feeling and it seems as if something bad is to happen?
Not sure why, but I have a bad feeling about this whole thing.
If I had known this before my MIL moved in with us, I would have not allowed it to happen.
BTW. My MIL has made a 180 turn for the positive in her health.
All her tests are excellent and all the symptoms that brought her here seem to be gone. Her doctors have marveled at her rebound.
Much of it was diet. She is now eating well. Very well.
In fact, if this keeps up as it is, I expect my MIL to outlive both of us.
I am worried about my girl. We just had our 22nd anniversary yesterday.