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Old 07-26-2014, 06:13 PM   #131
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This morning my MIL got a visit from some church people.
She now will be picked up twice a week for at least a few hours each time and we hope she may find some friends.
This church deal could be what we all need.

Thanks again and I will keep the forum updated.
That is outstanding news RB!
At least your wife will have some alone time while she's out of the house.
I'm sure your alone time with you wife will be welcomed too. It's never easy getting used to a new family member.
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Old 07-26-2014, 07:11 PM   #132
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This morning my MIL got a visit from some church people.
She now will be picked up twice a week for at least a few hours each time and we hope she may find some friends.
This church deal could be what we all need.
That's good, RB. Perhaps you could prevail upon your wife to use some of this "down time" for herself? Perhaps a visit to the hairdresser? I know that sounds a bit hackneyed but it's surprising how relaxing it is to be a captive audience and to sit in a chair and have nothing to do and nowhere to go for an hour while someone gives you their full attention. Perhaps you could take her out for lunch somewhere inexpensive or for a drive out to somewhere pretty with a picnic which you've prepared specially for her?

A bit of pampering needn't be expensive and it can work wonders when one is stressed out.

You sound like a great husband and I hope she appreciates you.
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Old 07-27-2014, 03:44 PM   #133
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That's good, RB. Perhaps you could prevail upon your wife to use some of this "down time" for herself? Perhaps a visit to the hairdresser? I know that sounds a bit hackneyed but it's surprising how relaxing it is to be a captive audience and to sit in a chair and have nothing to do and nowhere to go for an hour while someone gives you their full attention. Perhaps you could take her out for lunch somewhere inexpensive or for a drive out to somewhere pretty with a picnic which you've prepared specially for her?

A bit of pampering needn't be expensive and it can work wonders when one is stressed out.

You sound like a great husband and I hope she appreciates you.
The hairdresser is a good idea MC but if I was gifted with a stress reliever it would be a massage! RB go to a spa in your area and buy her a gift certificate. Then you'll be the perfect husband.
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Old 08-06-2014, 01:14 PM   #134
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That's good, RB. Perhaps you could prevail upon your wife to use some of this "down time" for herself? Perhaps a visit to the hairdresser? I know that sounds a bit hackneyed but it's surprising how relaxing it is to be a captive audience and to sit in a chair and have nothing to do and nowhere to go for an hour while someone gives you their full attention. Perhaps you could take her out for lunch somewhere inexpensive or for a drive out to somewhere pretty with a picnic which you've prepared specially for her?

A bit of pampering needn't be expensive and it can work wonders when one is stressed out.

You sound like a great husband and I hope she appreciates you.
Thanks for the kind words and the ideas.

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The hairdresser is a good idea MC but if I was gifted with a stress reliever it would be a massage! RB go to a spa in your area and buy her a gift certificate. Then you'll be the perfect husband.
My girl would rather be fishing than getting a massage.
But I could and do need to come up with some things we can do together.
The easiest way to get her away from the work is to, well get her away.
Thanks.
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Old 11-13-2014, 12:24 PM   #135
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Yesterday was our 6th month discussion regarding my MIL's stay and how things were going.
She brought it up as I did not even realize it had been that long already. It was very informal and I told her all was well with me and the monetary situation was just fine for now.
My wife on the other hand was not very happy and to be honest, she has not been happy. I told my wife that this would play itself out and to be patient.
My MIL is no longer sick and requires zero care or help. She is even driving. She turned 80 yesterday also. I was thinking and worrying a bit about how to handle the situation.

Today, my wife came into my office and told me her mother wanted to go back home.
Her house is empty and clean with new floors and completely refurbished. I told my wife some weeks ago, that I expected her to go once the house was done. I was right.
So, folks, the experiment is over and the relief is unbelievable. Not so much for me, but for my wife. I had no issue with my MIL, but my wife had lots of them stemming back from years ago. Lots of resentment it seemed. So I am happy for her. When she's happy, so am I.

Thanks for all the support you guys gave me. I did and still do appreciate all of you.

John
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Old 11-13-2014, 12:33 PM   #136
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John, I'm glad to hear things worked out so well.
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Old 11-13-2014, 12:47 PM   #137
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John, I'm glad to hear things worked out so well.
Me too!
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Old 11-13-2014, 12:57 PM   #138
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Thanks so much for sharing this journey John. I'm so glad her health now allows her to be independent again, for both her and your wife. It's always been my opinion there's no home big enough for two grown women. You deserve a big gold star!!
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Whew! Awesome news, John!
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Old 11-13-2014, 01:16 PM   #140
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Great news John. Evidently you and your wife gave her great care. And even if she doesn't say it, you can bet she is very grateful to you and your wife. Congratulations to a job well done. You are a great son-in-law.
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