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Old 05-09-2014, 07:56 PM   #81
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...It seems my husband is intent on dying penniless... Any time we go out to eat with others, he grabs that check before it even hits the table, even if we have paid the past 5 times. No wonder people like to go out with us. LOL I am very frugal....always looking for a way to save a penny.
When my parents would go out with his sister and BIL they almost always paid the entire bill. Mostly my Dad's doing. My aunt always kept a small pad of paper in her purse and jotted down every penny they spent when they went out - meal costs, tax, tip, then whole ball of wax. I don't know if Dad grabbed the check because he felt sorry or was annoyed, but he did. Turns out when aunt and uncle moved from their house (which might have been a rental, I don't remember) to an apartment they got one along Cleveland's "Gold Coast", a nice upper-level unit overlooking Lake Erie. Guess they weren't so poor after all.
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Old 05-09-2014, 08:01 PM   #82
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I want to go to dinner with Carol and Dawg and see who of our three husbands is quicker! When I go to lunch with my Tues. Lunch Bunch of women, we ask for separate checks.

There's a thoughtful commercial on tv right now with two couples at dinner. The man of the younger couple grabs the check and the older man doesn't want him to pay because he's worried about him having enough money for his future. The younger man is worried about the older man having enough money to last him. They are father and son. It's about planning for the future.
When we go out in a group we always split the bill equally by unspoken agreement. We never get involved in the "I didn't have coffee and you had dessert" argument.
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Old 05-09-2014, 08:27 PM   #83
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When we go out in a group we always split the bill equally by unspoken agreement. We never get involved in the "I didn't have coffee and you had dessert" argument.
Most of the ladies I've been having lunch with for the last 20 years are now on a fixed income, with little money to spare. One may order a dinner salad for lunch, and another a steak, so separate checks only makes sense. Few waitresses balk at the separate checks, and if they do we split it up and tell the manager when we leave that we'll never be back and why.
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Old 05-09-2014, 08:42 PM   #84
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Most of the ladies I've been having lunch with for the last 20 years are now on a fixed income, with little money to spare. One may order a dinner salad for lunch, and another a steak, so separate checks only makes sense. Few waitresses balk at the separate checks, and if they do we split it up and tell the manager when we leave that we'll never be back and why.
We had the good luck of showing our favorite part of Mexico to a couple who live next door to us. We went out to dinner together every night, and everything worked by splitting the bill in half. We all seemed to have mirror images of what we ate and drank!

When I go out with colleagues, we get separate checks.
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When we go out with friends, it's either an invitation with implication that one couple is paying or it's separate bills. The exception to that is usually with Indian food or Chinese food, where we order a number of dishes to share. Then it's split it by the number of people.
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Old 05-09-2014, 09:00 PM   #86
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We mostly ask for separate checks when we go out. I have a friend who does not drink and eats lightly. A 50/50 split would not be fair. With my sister and BIL, we have to argue over the check because he hates separate checks.
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Old 05-10-2014, 12:41 PM   #87
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This is probably a generalization in some quarters----- but when eating out a lot in San Francisco with other people who loved to eat out the men would 'fight' for the privilege of paying the check for the entire table. It may have something to do with the male ego or one of the hormones that men have.

(Can I say the word 'testosterone'? or is that too risque?)

I never saw women doing that---- unless perhaps a business lunch and the 'boss' was paying. Or the sales rep.
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I go out regularly with two very good friends (a married couple) that I have know since I was at school. I used to find it very embarrassing that the husband always insisted on paying the whole of the meal including mine. I would rather split the bill and I make sure my choices compare well with theirs as far as price is concerned but very discretely so they don't realise I'm doing it so the split is fair - but he still did it.

I didn't want to create an embarrassing fuss in the restaurant so I eventually had to speak to the wife and we came up with the idea that I would give my share of the bill to her and she would give it to her husband when they got home. It took a while for hubby to get the message but we now have developed a system were he pays the bill in the restaurant and we settle up when we've left. Both his and my egos are therefore placated!
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I think my husband does that because he always told me about his mother and her sister who would go out to eat and then bring out their calculators. LOL
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I think my husband does that because he always told me about his mother and her sister who would go out to eat and then bring out their calculators. LOL
I've been known to do that when one or more people have ordered lots of extras or more booze or far more expensive food. Often those are the folks who didn't want the separate bills.

Seems to me I remember one dude who always ordered extra for himself when a group was splitting the bill. One time someone was obviously tired of this and started sharing this guy's appetizer with the rest of us.
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