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Old 03-09-2006, 02:29 PM   #21
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What can I add to what everyone else has said?

We're here for you. You're there for him.


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Old 03-09-2006, 04:12 PM   #22
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Mish,be there, be you..All losses bring a keen sense of pain. When I lost my dad, after months of taking care of him..One of the nicest things for me was having my friend come to the house, bring in a dinner and dessert, hot and ready to go, then put her arms around me and tell me she loved me, and how she loved dad...Another friend, just came and sat by me saying nothing, just held my hand, then quietly slipped away as others came in. Later that week, a large donation was made in dad's name to his favorite charity. There isn't much we can say at at time like this, but just being there does and says it all.Right now you are stunned and hurt..Sit down, what did your friend treasure the most? Did she love a certain flower or poem..Did she have a favorite cause...You can do something like that in her name..Main thing, just do what you think she would do if she were able.
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Old 03-09-2006, 04:26 PM   #23
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Mish, please know the my thoughts are with you and your friend's family. So sorry to hear of your loss...........Linda
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Old 03-09-2006, 04:55 PM   #24
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Am so sorry Mish. As we get older we have to go through the loss of family and friends too many times.

All you can do is be there with a kind heart, and if you see a spot where you can help, jump in.

Have found we can often be of help in the background. There are a lot of things that need to be done, such as cooking, perhaps, or maybe taking the clothes to the cleaners, or, you get the idea.

Every situation is different, every family is different, and you just have to see how the thing develops.

Very much remember, and cherish, the kindness of those who just showed up.

We knew there was nothing they could do to ease the pain, but learned how important it is that there are some people who will share it.

God bless.
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Old 03-09-2006, 07:29 PM   #25
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Mish. Im SO very sorry. What was she going thru before she went? Its so very sad. It makes us all relish what we all have now. Can you tell us how old she was?
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Old 03-09-2006, 07:35 PM   #26
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Mish- there isn't anything anyone can say that will take away the pain that's so new- I agree time will heal those hurts ; remember the reasons she was so dear to you. Just being there for her husband will help- my thoughts and prayers are with you now.
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Old 03-09-2006, 08:59 PM   #27
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I know this is a hard time for you. I know how it feels to lose someone close. My parents are gone, my grandparents, and it does hurt. It leaves you empty inside knowing that you can't call them on the phone, or visit. But remember, the loss is temporary. I do believe in life after death. I do believe I will see my parents and loved ones again. At my Mother's Eulogy, I said "I won't say goodbye to my Mom, rather, I say, keep a place waiting for me at the table for when I get there.

I have truly had amzing things happen because of prayer to not believe. I share that with you, and hope you can share similar experiences with your freind. He can see his wife again, just not in this mortality.

I'm going out on a limb here by expressing my beliefs. I'm not sure we're supposed to do this on a public forum. I won't get into my views on that policy, whether in the work place, or any other public place. We claim to be a free society, and yet we put so many restrictions on ourselves. But I digress. Keep your freind's memory in your heart. Remember the good times, the hard times, the things that made your relationship with her valuable.

Remember, we are on this Earth for but a short time. We are here to grow, to learn. And when it's over, it's a new begining. That's my belief. I know my Mother, Father, and Stepfather will be waiting for me, along with everyone else who passed beyond mortality before me.

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Old 03-09-2006, 09:05 PM   #28
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mish, there have been many beautiful, comforting words written here. I know you can feel the love and support you have from all of us. You and those who know, love, and miss your friend will be in my prayers.
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Old 03-09-2006, 09:59 PM   #29
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sometimes, mish, you may need little more than to be there with someone, & yet be silent, & if either of you wants to speak, do. what seems to matter to me is having someone with you.
i'm sorry for your loss, mish.
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Old 03-09-2006, 11:35 PM   #30
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Oh, Mish... I am sorry to hear of this loss. You must be feeling many different emotions right now. I dont know what to say really to make things any easier (is there anything that can be said in situations like this?) but just know that you and those around you are in my thoughts and prayers...

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