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Old 03-09-2006, 11:47 AM   #1
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My Best Friend Passed Away

I don't usually put my personal stuff out there, but, this hit me hard. I've seen many posts asking for prayers, and how tragic it is when a 'celebrity' passes on and all that he/she has contributed to the world/community. This personal loss is far more devastating to me. I have so many mixed emotions right now, so please forgive me if it comes spilling out.

My friend's husband called me this morning, beside himself, & bless his heart, thought to call me and tell me my friend/his long-time partner had passed away. I am trying to put my emotions on hold, and thought, should I have asked him if there is something I can do. He was very rushed on the phone, and told me he is planning funeral arrangements at Forest Lawn, and waiting for call backs. I am very sorry, but I'm blown away right now - running the gamut of emotions. She suffered with a long-time battle of alcoholism, and had a heart attack, even with a pacemaker. Sometimes life baffles me. What can I do, say, to help him? I know he is hurting.


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Old 03-09-2006, 11:49 AM   #2
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Be there for him Mish... tell him that you love them both.
Extra hugs always help.

I'm sending one to you.

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Old 03-09-2006, 11:54 AM   #3
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Aww, Mish. I'm so so sorry!!
You can ask him if you can help with arrangements or cooking or just being there for him. It's always nice to have someone there, even if you don't talk, just sit together or hold his hand.
I don't know what to say. I wish we were closer to each other!! Big hug to you Mish!!
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Old 03-09-2006, 11:54 AM   #4
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I'm sorry to hear that mish. My thoughts are with you. I agree with pdswife that you need to let him know that you're there for him... and not just now, cause he might just think that's what people "say". Say it now, and remind him again a little later.
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Old 03-09-2006, 12:00 PM   #5
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I'm sorry to hear that Mish. My thoughts are with you.
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Old 03-09-2006, 12:00 PM   #6
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oh (((MISH))) I am so sorry for the loss of your friend.Life just sucks sometimes but, it's all part of the journey.Sometimes there are no words to say but, just a comforting hug and sometimes just sharing the good memories is comforting- I'm just talking from my own experieince-everyone is different. If you feel up to it-writing down all the things you loved about your friend and even the things that upset you but, because of your love for her you were able to forgive her and love her with all her faults.As much as her husband is suffering this tragedy - so are you and I hope you can find love, peace and comfort in all of us here who care what you are going through. With much love and energy, Vicki
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Old 03-09-2006, 12:00 PM   #7
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So sorry :( big huggzzzz
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Old 03-09-2006, 12:04 PM   #8
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Mish, I'm sorry to hear... I wish you much power and strength to get over this....
Let him know you will be there for him, but please don't force on him... he will let you know if he needs you..
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Old 03-09-2006, 12:05 PM   #9
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Oh my Mish. I am so very truly sorry about your loss.
Just be there for him and offer support or help in any way
you can. That's really all you can do in this point of time
right now.
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Old 03-09-2006, 12:05 PM   #10
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my deepest sympathies mish. i'm truely sorry for your loss. i will say a special prayer for your friend, and hope that the coming days will pass quickly for you.

The past is gone it's all been said.
So here's to what the future brings,
I know tomorrow you'll find better things
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