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Old 04-22-2011, 10:31 AM   #21
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I'm so sorry to hear this Barbara. Also about the girlfriend.. I hope he hasn't changed any POA's or anything.. that can be scary (I run into this working in a financial advisors office)... anyway, just remember that the family has been there more than "Several Months" and you deserve a heck of alot more authority than she is touting.
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Old 04-22-2011, 01:04 PM   #22
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Barbara, you know how much I care about you and that I know exactly where you are at right now as you were there for me almost exactly one year ago. My heart, prayers and thoughts are all with you, James and your family. Anything you need, just holler! I'll leave the window open so I can hear you better!
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I'm so sorry to hear this Barbara. Also about the girlfriend.. I hope he hasn't changed any POA's or anything.. that can be scary (I run into this working in a financial advisors office)... anyway, just remember that the family has been there more than "Several Months" and you deserve a heck of alot more authority than she is touting.
My daughter made it clear to the staff that only family is to be told anything about his care, and they put it on his chart. The only reason they have let her stay this long is because when my dad sees her he looks happy, but if she continues to wake him up and interfere with his care, she will be out of there.
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Old 04-22-2011, 03:05 PM   #23
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barbara, make sure you know at this moment who his power of attorney is. that person needs to make it clear that no one but family is allowed to anything at this point.


i will continue to include your dad in my prayers.
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Old 04-22-2011, 07:04 PM   #24
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A new update! The neurosurgeon now says that the type of tumor my dad has is one that has a 90% survival rate after 5 years. They can't do anything until his nausea goes down, but they will remove the tumor (all or part) and possibly (depending on how completely they can remove it) chemotherapy. His spirits were definitely lifted by this news. I got to talk to him on the phone today and he said he really appreciates everyone's prayers.

BT--The hospital staff knows not to tell anyone but family anything. There is a sign on his door that you have to check with the nurses before going in. The girlfriend was stuffing him full of food, which could account for the nausea. He is now on a diet of Ensure. She has finally stopped waking him up to "make out" with him. My daughter said it is disgusting--she practically lays on him kissing him over and over--in front of my grandkids, in front of people from church, etc. When family leaves, if the girlfriend is there, the staff has been told that if she does anything but just sit there, they are to call the family immediately. The hospital has been working with the family. The only reason the family is putting up with her being there at all is that it makes my dad happy when he sees her.
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Old 04-22-2011, 07:19 PM   #25
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That's good to hear, Barbara!
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Old 04-22-2011, 09:52 PM   #26
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Barbara, So sorry to hear about your dad. I know it is hard being that far away. I'm thinking good thoughts for both of you, and will keep him in my prayers.
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Old 04-22-2011, 11:23 PM   #27
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Barb, it's great to hear some positive news. We will continue to keep positive thoughts for you all.
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Old 04-23-2011, 03:45 AM   #28
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Barb mate I never know what to say in situations like this via this sort of medium, so my best wishes are with you and your family.
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Old 04-23-2011, 07:31 AM   #29
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Oh, I'm so sorry. My thoughts are definitely with you.
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Old 04-23-2011, 05:30 PM   #30
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barb my sis and i had a similar experience with my dad. he had a lady friend living with him. she ran up his credit cards, etc. some level of care, i guess. when he went in for surgery and then died, she was still in the house. we had to buy her out or she wasn't moving out. we did and she did. what a mess. bills on credit cards came in long after my dad died. she called me once long distance to tell me my dad had on two shirts wrong side out. i couldn't figure what she wanted me to do. i'm in ca. and they were in tenn. and my sister was right there. a piece of work, indeed. don't cut her any slack or you will be very sorry.
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