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Old 02-17-2012, 08:29 PM   #31
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I see no problem with Violet curling up on the bed. It should happen, it might calm your Dad enough he can sleep. And if anyone tells you she can't be up there, escort them out of the room and close the door behind them.
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Old 02-18-2012, 02:33 AM   #32
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Well, Violet did go with me. Dad was asleep but she jumped up so very gently he didn't even notice, but when she put her head on his leg his hand gradually went to her. They stayed like that for probably 45 minutes. It was so awesome. I wished I could have taken a picture as they were peacefully sleeping.

One of the nurses came in and asked if they could hire her!

The rest of the visit wasn't as good. He didn't like that I changed the night worker to a day one because he was sleeping most of the night and is restless and needy in the morning when they are trying to get everyone up for breakfast. He agreed with me and then complained to my sister and then told the evening nurse that I had promised to spend the night with him. They are finally realizing that on top of his pain and anxiety he has some dementia as well.

I am very tired, discouraged and scared. I really don't know how this is all going to turn out. My sister is the same. But I have faith that all will work it's way out. The main thing is that Dad not suffer as he has been.
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Old 02-18-2012, 02:49 AM   #33
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LP mate I visit this thread every day.There is nothing anyone can say to help apart from knowing others care.
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Thanks, Bolas. I appreciate your sentiment. I draw great strength from everyone here at DC.
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Old 02-18-2012, 02:59 AM   #35
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I am very tired, discouraged and scared. I really don't know how this is all going to turn out. My sister is the same. But I have faith that all will work it's way out. The main thing is that Dad not suffer as he has been.
I can understand, and appreciate the gravity of your situation. I am so sorry that your dad is going through this, as well as you and the family, but for what it's worth, we are pulling for you all.

More positive thoughts and energy heading your way!
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As hard as it may be, take the complaining in stride. My dad was the same way, and who can blame them. When someone has been so vital and independent for most of his life, and then he is stuck in a body that no longer works, and has to depend on others for everything, it is so hard on him. I think my dad's sense of dignity suffered most of all, knowing that we were seeing him that way. Just remember, when he complains it is just because he is not in control. Of course, I know you know all of this. We are continuing to pray for your dad, and for you and Tony.
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Laurie,
my thoughts are with you.
Believe me, I know how you feel.. as I read your story I see my Dad lying in his hospital bed, going downhill almost every hour..
there was some of us (sisters/brothers/Mother) with him for 24h. The last three days at the ICU and finally he was relieved from his pain....

And it all started with a broken elbow........
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LP, it's obvious to me that the antidepressant they started him on is not working, they need to change it. It has been a couple of weeks, there should be some signs it is starting to work by now.

I am very glad for the reaction of the staff to Violet, how is she doing? Still moping at home or is she a bit perkier?
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LP, it's obvious to me that the antidepressant they started him on is not working, they need to change it. It has been a couple of weeks, there should be some signs it is starting to work by now.

I am very glad for the reaction of the staff to Violet, how is she doing? Still moping at home or is she a bit perkier?
The two weeks for the antidepressant is Monday and the doctor is going to review it then. But I agree with you that it isn't working well. We STILL don't have the results of the urine culture and the hemoglobin which is unsettling.

Violet is still clinging to me, but is eating better, more playful and generally much happier. Every time I come home from seeing Dad she sniffs me and I am sure she can smell him on me and probably knows that is a good thing! We will be taking both dogs up tomorrow afternoon as hubby will come with me. Joie tends to be more hyper there and if he barks one of us can take him out. But Dad loves both of them.
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aren't dogs remarkable, tho? i wonder if they know how wonderfully therapeutic they are for us humans at times....:)
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