Originally Posted by babetoo
thanks june. the hospital has completed it's job to write my friend off. with the brain injury they caused and now the drugs they are giving her, she is reduced to a vegetable.
she doesn't know anyone, including her daughter. i am resigned that i will never see my friend again. everything reminds me of her. my wind chimes were a gift from her so when i hear them, i think of her. she gave me a hummingbird feeder for my birthday. such a thoughtful person. when i bake cupcakes i think of her. she gave me the silicone pans. .
pray that wallie will go peacefully , she might as well be dead, in the condition she is in. there is not hope it will ever get better.
babetoo, the way I read this is, life makes it little easier to accept our loss. It somehow takes away the pain when we are reminded of the days we had with our loved ones. May be these things were given to help you find solace in your days ahead. The memories are so valuable and I am told that memories from long ago are remembered more than recent ones. This all must have something to do with life.
Hearing you say that you would rather be at rest than in the state she is in is a true sign of the love you have for her. Just like with my dogs, sad comparison but true, when they are no longer 'living' the way they should the vet will put them down. I would want someone to be 'living' than laying in a state of not knowing.
I thank you babetoo, for sharing your thoughts w/us. In some way, having others assure you that they are grieving with you helps. I am sure Thomas is of some consolation also. He knows what is going on. Just having him be near is great help. My prayers are with both you and wallie. Please keep in touch and take special care of yourself. wallie would want you to. do it for her. May God grant you peace whenever the day comes. let go, and let God!